I am constantly pretending to like my friends boyfriends. They say "I can see myself with him" and then realize that they deserve so much better and their boyfriends are crap.
Then there are the other people. They have some sort of limbo of a closed relationship but not serious relationship. Let's see where things go kind of relationship. My question is WHY. GOD WHY! Why do you stay in a relationship that YOU KNOW will go nowhere. I understand the whole period of getting to know each other and all that good stuff. Then, you get a general idea of the person and if you have a future.
I understand that you can learn things from a relationship but you can also learn a lot from different relationships, AND from being single.
Why lead someone on, waste your time, or settle for something less than what you deserve? I knew that I wasn't going to end up with this guy and I could never see myself marrying him or in fact, being his girlfriend any more. I broke up with him and didn't date anyone else until I met the most wonderful man in the world.
Btw, I am in a relationship that is the one and only. Help me out here. Maybe I just need some more perspectives.
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I understand where you are coming from.
A weird thing though is relationships go through rocky patches. That doesn't mean just because someone is doing bad now that they should end it. Many women also don't like to be alone. They want to have someone. Also I believe that love has alot to do with it. People are afraid to leave because they love that person alot and have been with them along time.
I wish I could explain this better but my brain is going out on me today.:[
http://www.progressiveu.org/032913-lupus-uncureable-wait-what
Love comments? I do too!
idk if anyone knows who they are going to spend the rest of thier lives with.
some reasons:
- people change
- after couples spend too much time together, they get to know everything about echother and then there is nothing left to motivate the relationship
- maybe you thought u knew everything about them, but then thats not the case
there are prolly many more reasons that i can't think of right now. But i think boredom of a significant other is an issue. You mind not be leading them on, but the relationship itself just can't keep going.
I am not referring to your relationship in general. Glad you found some one to make you happy. Im just saying some reasons why relationships might not work.
I think there is an underlying sense of wanting to be accepted, and an in-the-moment mentality. If the guy that I like asked me out, I would probably say yes. We know each other, but then again don't really know each other...Honestly, I don't see us having a long-lasting future...but for this moment in my life, it would feel good to be accepted by the one that I like.
The problem is that people don't really think about the future when they're in those types of situations.. thinking about what is happening now is easier than thinking about what might happen in the future. But here's the thing, serious relationships take planning and time to build..
-Amanda-