So I've discovered that I'm becoming that girl. You know, the one who:
- Is impatient after about five seconds
- Would rather lay out in the sun all day than do anything productive
- Can quote every line from a nonsensical movies
- May occasionally outswear any sailor given the current situation
- Constantly claims that she's fat, just so she can be reassured that she's really not
- Chews her fingernails like she's going out of style
- Dances around in her room when she thinks no one is watching
- Thinks she will never find love
- Makes fun of everyone, no matter who they are or what they think
- Cries during movies that shouldn't be sad (Artificial Intelligence? Come on now)
- Prides herself on discovering new music
- Paints her nails black because it's "en vogue"
The point is, I'm one of those girls. I'll be doing something and think to myself "Oh God, I'm becoming that girl. You know, the one who complains about how fat she is."
Or,
"I'm becoming that girl, the one who makes fun of everyone, what does she think she's flawless?"
But after much consideration, I've decided that I don't really care. I'm happy with who I am. There are always going to be people, myself included, who are going to look at other people and think "They're one of those people."
But you know what? It doesn't matter. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter. As long as you like being one of "those" people, as long as you're content with who you are, who the hell cares if you cry during unsad movies or dance around when you think no one's looking?
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I've found that I have been becoming "that" girl too. But I don't think I could ever stop dancing when no one is looking.
As long as you're confident and content being that girl, it doesn't matter! By the way, many of those bullet points apply to me too.
YES! That's what I'm talking about.
Well I mean, it's obvious that more things make up who I am than what I've bulleted, but I'm so sick of caring when people are whisper and say things like, "Oh, she's like that...
Am I out of touch or something? 'Cause I don't think I've ever met THAT girl, or at least the specific version which you describe.
Oh well.
"The religion of one age is the literary entertainment of the next"
-Ralph Waldo Emerson.
NO!!!!
I'm saying this: That we're all different forms of 'that' girl. No one has all of the qualities that make up a perfect person. We're all unique in our own special ways, ways that not all other people smile upon or accept.
Oh I see! Is it then impossible to not be THAT girl?
"The religion of one age is the literary entertainment of the next"
-Ralph Waldo Emerson.
I don't think it is possible to not be that girl.
Everyone has traits someone else wouldn't approve of...
No one is perfect.
That's what I'm saying.
People may not approve of my swearing, of painting my nails black just because it's "in style," and they may laugh or roll their eyes that I cry over not-so-sad movies.
I'm saying it's okay if you are what someone doesn't approve of. You're you. You should be who you want to be.
you must be because, every girl is that girl. come on, lets admit it females, we've all said we're fat at least once, just so someone could tell us to shut up. well, i dont cry much so the movie one doesnt apply, but my god i chew my nails so much and i swear like a trucker everyday. but hey i still like myself, and thats what matters
non ducor DUCO
i wish upon shooting stars
Well then, I guess I learned something today!
Thanks!
"The religion of one age is the literary entertainment of the next"
-Ralph Waldo Emerson.
It's good to be happy with who we are, but I think that it's important to try to better ourselves. No one is perfect, but it's okay to try to be perfect or to become your ideal self. Why would one want to settle for less? It's good to think about our future and the people that look up to us. It's good to better the world through our own actions. I'm nowhere near perfect, and I have some qualities that make me think that I'm "that girl", but thinking about those qualities, is that someone who I "really " want to be? This world is becoming more and more about ourselves and not caring about what other people think, but perhaps we should worry a little about what others think. Perhaps they are onto something. :) Maybe...just maybe...
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/arhipgeo86
better question, why put that much pressure on yourself, perfection is impossible, im not saying if you have a bad habit you shouldnt try to break it, but dont kill yourself trying to be perfect, there will always be someone who doesnt like you and if there isnt then you have no personality. you need to be satisfied with yourself, but not exhausted by your life.
non ducor DUCO
i wish upon shooting stars
I guess it's okay to strive for perfection; but just always remember to keep in mind that it cannot be accomplished.
Besides, imperfections are what makes everyone truly unique.
I agree, we should better ourselves in some ways... but sometimes things never change. But if someone doesn't like me for who I am, I'm going to change to better suit their needs.
I am so happy with who I am that sometimes I look at myself and wonder how come I am able to be content with being insecure about myself (if that makes any sense). I know what my faults are, and I take them the way they are. I know what I like about myself, and with that I am able to build my confidence. I think I am becoming THAT Girl too, If I am not her already. And I guess I am ok with that.
Striving to be perfect will not lead you to lose your individuality or your personality. There are things that set us apart from one another, but we can still be moral people who strive to become better than what they are. It's great to love yourself and to like who you are, but liking the not so great things about yourself is really not healthy, and I think that a lot of people today, instead of trying to better themselves they learn to cope with the person that they have become, even if that person isn't the greatest. (I am definitely NOT pointing any fingers). Perhaps I'm thinking of an ideal world, where everyone does Not make fun of everyone, who don't swear like a sailor, who choose to be productive because that's the better way to go. Throughout puberty, adolescents have a slightly lower self esteem than they do in adulthood or as kids (girls more so than boys). It is not THAT low where it makes a HUGE difference in everyone's life, but as a society we are taught that in order to get a higher self esteem we should accept the people that we are. Now, again, don't get me wrong. You should love yourself, but it just seems that a lot of things that we don't find acceptable ARE becoming acceptable, and is that really the world that we want to live in? Is that how we want our future generations to be? Thinking that it's okay to be mediocre, when we KNOW that we can do better?
p.s. You won't kill yourself being perfect. I promise. In fact, you might even feel even better about yourself after taking small steps to become a better person. (but i think that small steps might be important, or else we'll get discouraged and just learn to like ourselves for who we are, even if there are parts of us that we would like to change). :)
And just as a side note, this is NOT an attack on everyone. Just trying to make everyone try to think on a different wavelength. :)
The thing is, what you find to be perfection, someone else may find to be imperfection.
So the way I see it, there are always going to be people who don't think you're perfect, even if you think you are. Does that make sense?
My reply was mostly to the gunpowder person, but here's what I was thinking. People don't find good qualities to be imperfections ( such as not making fun of people, or actually caring to do something productive). It's good to have little quirks and to have different talents, that's what makes us unique, but good things such as caring for other people (and as a result not talking about them behind their back or in front of them), and doing productive things, and becoming a better person, no one finds those things as imperfections.
I think that I see what you're trying to say, but I wasn't downing things that make us unique. Just things that people think it's okay to have, when (if we really think about it), really are not okay to have. :)
When we know that there are things that we can better about ourselves, then we should go ahead and try to better those things, because no one will complain about us becoming better beings.
And the comment about killing ourselves to be perfect was also more towards the girl who wrote that. :) (BUT it wasn't a verbal assault or anything like that). Just a thought. :)
I actually understand exactly what you're saying now, and I agree.
Yay! I was beginning to think that perhaps I wasn't making any sense. But in all honesty, I find your blog/forum to be pretty good, and I definitely see what you're trying to say, I was just trying to look at it from a different perspective..:) Have a great day and I am looking forward to more blogs/forums :) (I won't pick on you though, promise).