There's a question that's been on my mind for awhile now -- 365 days, or one year, to be exact. It's a question that has remained on the replay button in my mind, everyday the same mantra...
How exactly do you get over someone you used to love?
Quite frankly, I'm sick of blasting angry songs written by artists who can't stand their exes.
And I'm also quite sick of the constant reminders of him, everywhere I look.
He's one of those people, who you can't forget about. You see him five days a week, he doesn't let you forget about the mistake you made by dumping him, and he constantly keeps you as the bait -- he'll throw you out and then reel you back in without a moments notice.
One minute he's together with his girlfriend and then the next minute he's force feeding you false hope and asking you to hang out.
It was a year ago to day that he started seeing her. It was a year ago today that I realized how much I actually loved him. It was a year ago today that my heart slowly but surely ripped in two.
Why is it that after fifty-two weeks my heart has not repaired itself? Why is it that I just can't seem to move on? Why is it that nothing has changed after a year?
They say time heals all wounds. What they don't notify you of is just how much time is needed.
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You're right, duct tape won't fix everything. Every now and then you need to use bungie cords instead. Maybe you are trying too hard to let things go. Maybe you need to date other people who aren't like him or who don't meet the expectations you have created by dating him. When he comes calling about being friends or "trying again" or whatever, you might just need to be the stronger one and "Just Say No." There's a million things I can say.... but it's easier to give you bungie cords and let you give it a try...... Good luck.
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Respectfully,
Adam
It's hard. I went through a difficult break-up almost two years ago. I swore off dating, swore that I would wait for him to realize his mistake until the end of time. Then, my best friend started begging me to come hang out. She was/still is in a serious relationship, but it wasn't awkward bc she was my best friend. Her BF started bringing around a close friend of his, and the four of us would all hang out. When his friend started to act like he was interested in me, I made up my mind that having a summer fling would take my mind off things and let me have a little fun, and then when school started I could go back to being depressed. So we started dating.
A year and seven months later, we still are. Once I let myself decide to have fun and not expect a big relationship commitment, I was able to love again. The heart will never truly heal, but every scar just turns into a story to share; an experience that helped make you who you are.
Not sure if that's exactly helpful, but I know what you are going through. Good Luck!
Hug a musician, they never get to dance.
You're right, there are some things you just can't fix with duct tape, or a lot of time. I know it sucks but I agree with everyone who said don't try too hard. For me, swearing off dating was a bad idea especially since my current boyfriend is the only reason I was able to move on.
Good luck!
The first thing you need to do is stop playing that aweful music, and then I'd say you need to avoid him. Ignore him. I went through a similar situation and it hurt. It hurt really bad. So you need to stop living in the lie that he's dishing out. He may be trying to feed you false hope, but that doesn't mean you have to eat it.
I agree with you. Completely.
I try to ignore him, and then I recieve these angry little text messages, or he comes up behind me and says "I love being ignored..."
He makes it impossible to ignore him, as much as I try.
Maybe he's not feeding you false hope. The way i see it, he might not want to be your bf, but still want to remain friends. You have to play the politics without getting caught up in it. Stop reading meanings into things he says, and those he doesn't. And you'll be fine----maybe.
Just wanted to add that I hate it most when such guys have the same initials as Brian Peppers.
and seeing trutalk mention politics, and knowing that you're going to see Emery live, download their song "studying politics." I know despite how much fun we had listening to your melancholy playlist, you're sick of blasting songs by artists who hate their past relationships. Buuuut Emery is too good