So, this week I was informed by a friend that they were concerned about my welfare...that they were worried about my insecurity...Normally, this would be a usual thing for a friend to show concern for another friend, but in my case, this friend happens to my ex-boyfriend and his best friend whom I don't talk to much anymore....
But, he asked me if there was anything that he or his best friend could do to help me get over my insecurity and because I don't talk to either of them much, it was strange to me that they would care about someone who they don't talk to at school or would consider as a close friend...
I eventually just told him that I was insecure because I have a fear of change, a change in my attitude in which I have become more pessimistic and I have lost motivation to do a lot of things that I used to love to do and dealing with disappointment in my life as a means to just get him off my back so to speak... Yet, when I think about it, a lot of is quite truthful because I am insecure about a lot of things in my life just as I was when I was younger but I hid it better because I just resorted to isolation.
Which worked pretty well for me because I just immersed myself in music and let the music speak for itself. Unfortunately, since I am older now, that doesn't exactly work anymore because I know that I have to face my fears and insecurities head on instead of running away from them or avoiding them.
So, now I ask myself, what is the root of my insecurity? Is it this "fear of change", "pessimistic attitude", "disappointment" or "lack of motivation" or a combination of all those things that could lead me into a depression if I don't resolve these issues.
If one thing for sure, I know that I am dealing with some underlying, emotional issues that hold a deeper meaning which is why I haven't quite figured out why I could be displaying a innate change in my behavior towards my ex-boyfriend and his friend as well as my other friends...
Question of the day: Can my ex-boyfriend and his friend be sincere about their concern for me or am I just overanalyzing the situation...? And how does one overcome insecurity?
To be the person who they always were to get back to being who they were meant to be...
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I have had issues with this. Think positive. It is hard. The way I started was "Hope for the best prepare for the worst." Believe it or not the more negative you think the more bad things will happen. I hated change when i was younger.
I realised one day that it wasn't change, it was BAD change. Change that I could control did not bother me. I believe they are genuinely concerned for your well being. I have struggled with depression my entire life since I was 13 years old.
Mine was from a combination of things. Strict up bringing,not ever being excepted,being made fun of for being fat and ugly for many many years. Maybe you have supressed a memory that triggered your insecurity.
Try to think positive force it and it will become a good habit. It is easy to lose yourself along the way. Maybe try and write down all of your insecurites and then make a list of how to change the way you see them. This has helped me. I hope this helps :)
http://www.progressiveu.org/032913-lupus-uncureable-wait-what
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I'm exceedingly insecure, especially in close relationships (boyfriend/girlfriends, or BFFs) and teacher/student relationships. I personally believe that this was because I felt (and still feel) abandoned (familial situation), and because I didn't have the sense to reach out and try to talk to someone before it was too late. If I form a close relationship or a teacher/student relationship, it's hard for me to let go - I've had panic attacks in the middle of class because a substitute teacher asked me my name, for crying out loud, because something in my head saying "the teacher will never come back" was triggered. When my ex broke up with me, I spent six months thinking "no one will ever love me, I'm horrible" - even though I'd been with my current boyfriend for five of those months.
Whether it be by talking to someone or writing things down, you need to get this out, because it could hurt you more if left inside. Even if you feel the urge to just curl up and not do it, you definitely should. One method doesn't work for every person, though, so definitely find what helps you get over being so insecure. Like DrifterDani, I've suffered from depression a good portion of my life (since I was 10, and I'm 17 now), and I've definitely found writing to be my escape... And it's been much, much more than that to me.
It won't go away completely, but it will get better.
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The first step is to find the root of your insecurities...I found mine, which was pretty much a lot of self-doubt and feeling worthless because of situations when I was a lot younger. And since then, I've been combatting those feelings. It involved a lot of positive thinking, willpower, and learning to let someone in and know what's going on. It helps to have help. To have someone to listen, someone to lean on, and someone to lift you up.
I also prayed a lot. A lot. And it helped, for me to know that God was there for me to talk to. Then, things started happening, one after another, and I was brought face to face with the fact that I was causing my own insecurites. Me, and no one else. Once I'd managed to accept that, it was much easier to put it behind me.
And that's comin' at ya' from yer local redneck hippie.