Why is it that parents seem to feel like they need to make their children feel as bad as they possibly can? My mother as soon a I get home she likes to start yelling at me. Today it was because i'm sick of living off cereal and chicken. This isn't the fist time I've been yelled at for small things like this. Also my girlfriend her mom as soon as she gets home she starts yelling about grades and how she doesn't care and how she's going to fail her senior year. She pretty much puts her in tears right before Britt has to go to school or work and i'm worried. Why does it seem like parents enjoy doing this to their kids? I do know a few parents who actually communicate with their kids and have good relationships with their kids but there aren't many. I don't even believe this is due to technology. I don't think parents should make it so that their child has no self esteem at all. That's what has happened to my girlfriend and I, and even quire a few of my friends. Our parents make us feel so bad that we have no self confidence or self esteem. I hate it. My parents two of the few people that can make me burst into tears. I hate this!
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By immaangel9109 - Posted on February 19th, 2008
I just replied to a post about how adults are focusing too much on giving kids high self-esteem. You're post makes me think that maybe it's not always true that kids have too high self-esteem.
I've worked with high school seniors and community college students to help them find funding for college. And, I have two teen aged kids of my own. I think that at those teen and early 20s ages (which it sounds like might be your age group) is often mis-understood by older adults. It can be easy for us adults to discount what you say because you're younger, or you're emotional (screaming or crying), or because you don't talk like we do.
One thing to remember, that might help you feel better, is that the people who you love can hurt your feelings easier than those who you don't care about. As a kid, even as an adult, your parents are important in your life. Even if they're mean you still want them to love you and take good care of you. So when they hurt you it hurts that much more. Think about it, if they were just random people you never met would you care what they say? Probably not.
You're doing the best you can, and sticking with your friends (or at least girl friend) for support. Sometimes all you can do is keep the peace at home as much as possible. When things are hard it can be easy to forget this, but you really will be through it very soon! Keep your chin up. :)
I love my parent's.Sometimes they push us too much.Not giving us enough space.My parents are ok.They drive me mad sometimes on my grades.That saying probably i will have to be in high schoool for one more year blablabla.Sometimes i feel they being negative to me than making me feel positive about myslef.One way i learn to cope about it is to pray,and just listen from one ear to the other.Sometime i dont even get to see my parents as offten as i can.Last time i had a big argument with them about talking to my cousine and asking about info.My parents thought that im hiding things from the family.Now things are getting better but it's no the same no more.I love them so much they still mean the whole world to me no matter what.Having a good friend or friends that you trust,will help you cope with the situation.Cheer to our parents who love to nag us in their own good ways.