Why Women Allow Man to victimize them?

It’s crazy the number of books I’ve seen at bookstores with ways to be “his ideal woman” or “the way to be happy is by pleasing a man”. This being the twenty-first century we should be at the point where books would help a woman become nothing more than her own self. Now we all know that when a woman is in a relationship there is nothing wrong with making her guy happy. But why do some women let it to get to the point where they are emotionally, physically or even morally dependant on their spouse?

Religion- a set of believes usually containing a moral code controlling the behavior between people. In most of the religions the male is usually known to be dominant. Leaving women to think that sexism is fine, maybe even ideal. Most faithful women will do what they have to do to be a better Christian. They will try to be more polite, speak softer, not talk back to their husbands, forgive and forget. This makes them prone to domestic violence. Since they believe that they should respect their husbands, if they are treated unfairly or violently they will only endure it. Making them stay in a dangerous situations for longer periods of time. Some don’t ever leave resulting in injury or, sometimes, even death. Now, women who have a strong religious background will probably be the least likely to believe that violence against them is not acceptable. Some women have grown up seeing violence in their homes and therefore believe it is nothing serious. When in reality sexism or abuse should be dealt with immediately.

A women’s believes can be so strong that they can go against own intuition of danger. Religion has the power to convert even the strongest woman into, what is seen as, a dependable child. Sometimes even though reason is able to change the victims mind slightly, they are so intimidated economically, socially and emotionally by their spouses that they are not capable of standing up for themselves anymore. In some cases even though women live the high life, a man could give them so much to the point where they don’t see a threat to being dependant. By controlling her money the man makes her easier to control. Instead of allowing the women to make their own decision on the matter they are pressured to do what would please their husband. Others don’t leave because they don’t want to seem as bad Christians in other people’s eyes. And finally some are manipulated to believe that the relationship is not successful because of them, making them feel they are a failure. This keeps them at status quo for if they leave they’ll be admitting to failure.

So some people who see the problem maybe fail to see why women let themselves be victimized this way. So where does this end? How can a woman caught up in a cycle of abuse see that she is capable of dignity and respect?

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