It seems as though from our early childhood we are taught that we wil eventually grow up to be married and have a family, but what if we choose not to? I've had many people laugh in my face countless times when i share my goal to not get married in life, is that really so out of the norm? and if it is, why is it such a big deal anyway? There are people of the same sex getting married, losers who can't get a date at the age of forty-five and the people who simply haven't found love "yet," but people who are still unmarried do exist.
Is it really so bad to say i'll never get married? Seriously, i know they argue that i don't know what will happen in ten or even five years, and it's true that i'm not psychic, but that doesn't mean that i don't have the right to choose.
There are many problems that could be avoided in a woman's life if only she CHOSE to avoid them, marriage may be one of them. Although it is not true that all marriages will fail, it is true that an alarming rate of them will not last very long or will be dysfunctional in a few years.
I have decided that i do not want to be one of those girls who loses her individuality to some idiot who thinks he can govern me just because he's of the "stronger" sex. I mean, do i really want to be subject to the kinds of things men subject their wives to? Just think of it: work, take care of the kids, cook, clean, manage the household, make sure the man doesn't screw up the economic situation of the family and -let's not forget the added bonus- possibly be cheated on and then lied to. No thank you, i think i'd rather stay single.
After all, it will be my choice -if a man ever decides he wants to marry me(which i would find extremely strange)- whether or not i say yes. The same thing goes for all those teen girls out there who are stupid enough to get pregnant. Honey, the sex will last a few minutes, the consequences may last a lifetime.
It is OUR choice as women wether or not we want to get married, or have sex or kids or anything, don't let tradition cloud what could be a bright future ahead of you.
; )
My best friend is a 40something man who never married, and he's not a loser at all! He just likes his life as it is! You don't have to do anything you don't want to do.
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/ediblewoman
I was simply trying to make a point, and i'm sorry if i ofended you or your friend, or anyone else out there, i just didn't have much time to write other examples, but my point is exactly that, that i think i will be satisfied enough with my life that i won't need to get married to be happy.
~Bookworm62591♥
No! No offense! I was just pointing out that you won't necessarily be a loser if you don't get married. I was seconding your position. Some people like their lives enough that they don't feel the need to mess with it!
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/ediblewoman
It's all about our independence, , , and our right to choose
i hear you.
Ana Segura
you're totally correct, we do not HAVE to get married in order to be happy and fulfilling. My mother dated my step father for 14 years before she decided for legality reasons, she was going to marry him so that when she died, I wouldn't be warded to the state. Marriage has gone from sacred to being run by government. it shouldn't be that way.
as for the the comment about losing your individuality, we only lose what isn't embedded in our lives. Marriage is supposed to be a bonding between two people who love and respect each other in all aspects of their being. now a days, marriage happens because of money, or physical infatuation, lust, temporary carnal satisfaction, or simply because they feel like they have to for their parents, or for another reason. But if you find someone who you can truly love, respect and enjoy, and get all that back in return, then there wouldn't any worry about losing your individuality, being mis-taken by the home maker, the child care taker, etc. Marriages worked back then because people didn't work so much and there was a lot of time for family bonding. now, everyone is so busy and on the go that both parties hardly see each other and often forget the reasons why they even fell in love with their spouse. Society has evolved into such a chaotic world that it's no wonder the divorce rates are up. no one spends time with their families anymore, they spend more time at work and no effort is made in keeping their relationships alive.
i don't give all the blame to the people involved in the relationship for divorces, i blame society.
I agree with our lives being too busy that some of our relationships fall into disorder, but years ago we were just as busy if not busier. Back in the 1800s on the farm, they worked from sun up to sun down. What do you mean about them not being busy?
Also I think that we have forgotten that marriage is sacred and have not been willing to work hard to keep our relationships strong. All friendships hit tough spots, and there may be times that you don't want to be friends anymore. When that comes during marriage, it is time to realize how special your spouse is, and how important it is to keep the relationship together.
I think I could handle being single, but lately I have just wanted that closeness, acceptance and love that would be experienced in a marriage or a very close relationship. I really want that, and not from my parents.