the other day i was having a normal conversation with a good friend of mine. all the sudden she broke down and admitted to me that she had had a friends with bennifits relationship for over a year with a guy who suddenly decided to end their friendly romance.
That got me to wondering about the benifits and pains of a friends with benifits relationship. Certainly it can end in heartbreak... but so can a typical relationship. The idea is a good one. We can just be friends who also have a sexual relationship. there is no need for feelings to get involved. We are friends who understand each others sexual needs and are willing to be there for each other.
Its a good idea. but an unreasonable one. Personally i think its more dangerous for the woman. We are more likely to become emotionally attached after sex. Its almost impossible not to. I believe that it is in most womens nature to desire love and a proper relationship. Obviously there is the exception to every rule.. but i think that i can generalize and say for the most part women are more likely to get attached. I think though that no matter which person it is, one person is always going to end up getting hurt.
personally i think its in the best interest of both parties to avoid this sort of heartache, I know many people disagree though so im interested to hear your veiw on it.
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My take is very similar to yours. I feel very strongly that people should be able to do what ever they want behind closed doors, and be able to make their own choices, but having a friend with benifits can get messy. As long as both parties are on the same page and know what they're in for, I think there's nothing wrong with the arrangement.
The key word is FRIENDS. I think open communication is much easier with friends than with someone you are more emotionally invested in. I've had great experiences with "friends with benefits." I've also had one situation go really bad.
As long as both parties are completely honest throughout the entire thing, there is no reason for there to be any broken hearts. I've never even gone out with anyone who wasn't a close friend already.
-Sonja :)
"Democracy works only when you vote. When you don't take the time to vote for the candidate you find the least offensive, you run the risk of electing the candidate you find the most offensive."
I personally think that's a terrible idea... sex should be an emotional experience with feelings involved...the people should be connected...in a friends with benefits relationship you are just using each other which is like telling another human they are useless but for one thing...it's just not smart...that's why I'm waiting till marriage
We're not talking about some one-night-stand with a stranger you meet at a party. We're talking about a friend, and I don't think that I'm the only person emotionally attached to my friends. Sex is different between friends than it is between significant others. Sex is natural and healthy. It is not something to be ashamed of or something to feel guilty about.
-Sonja :)
"Democracy works only when you vote. When you don't take the time to vote for the candidate you find the least offensive, you run the risk of electing the candidate you find the most offensive."
no I agree you are emotionally attached to your friends..but in an entirely different way...I'm not saying it doesn't work for some people..but as a blanket assumption it's not something I can see working out often...or something that I've seen happen often...I have, however, seen plenty of friendships ruined by that sort of thing
It can work. But rarely. x.x
I agree on the whole female emotion thing. Females tend to want a loving relationship rather than a benefit one. So that may be a factor that messes it up.