i am a senior in high school and i must say i have not had that many boyfriends or dates, mostly because my parents are extremely strict, but that would be a subject for another day, and now i have one.
I have a wonderful boyfriend that is funny, carring, understanding, and verry hot, to me.
The other day, like yesterday, i was looking at him and i asked myself : 'what am i feeling?, 'What am i supposed to feel?'. That is when i realized that i did not know what love was or if i felt in love with him; i mean, i care for him and i would never want anything bad to happen to him but that is the same way i feel about my friends.
So i keep asking, again and again, what is love; is it when i cant breath near him, is it when he holds my hand and i can feel the work and strength that he has, or is it when i look at him in the eyes and i get lost. If this is love then why dont i feel different, completely exited, in exchange i feel sometimes nervious of his reactions, like i don't know him, or kinda wierd around him because sometimes we don't know what to talk about, i even feel like he only has me for show sometimes!!!!!
And then i realized that love is not what it used to be. I sitted down and listened to my grandma, a long time ago, and she told me what she felt when she felt in love. Then i listen to my parents, how their relationship was like and how much respect and extreme meassures were taken only a few decades ago. In today's world people(some) get together and a few months later are having sexual intercourse and then they separate a few month later ( but some last for ever, i most point out). But a few years ago nobody would dare have intercourse until married and in their honey moon. Today is just like another game and a lot of teenager dont take it seriously.
Now what does this say about the people of the future when less and less people believe in marriage because they see it as a piece of paper only.When girls are loosing their virginity at like 13 years old because they dont want to feel left-out!!
My question is how am i supposed to feel and act when im in love if nobody around me can tellme clearly or show me because they themselves have not felt it and think they did.
What do i do now that i see myself tangled in this mess.
He said he loved me and he has said it many times but he doesnt mean it like i would do anything and everything and the infinite is for you kind of love. He means that he really likes me and that he cant wait until we can get to know each other better.
Another problem is flirting, i do it all the time and he does too, soo what am i supposed to do when im around a group of guys and i want some attention but he is not there.
Over all, love is a hard to understand subject and it has change, well love has not changed but the day we all show it, see it , and consider it is not as passionate as it used to be but it should be even when it should be.
I wonder when will i find my true love, im sure that a lot of people out there ask the samething , and will i be able to recognize it when it is right infront of me or not.
Also families dont show love like they used to soo i dont really know what love is supposed to feel like because most of the time love is somehow showned with actions and things not wolds, at least not anymore. If you have a different intake of this please comment because love is supposed to make the world go round and i think that we are deffinately slowing down everyday more and more until we will be standing still.
I always pictured love, when I was younger to be like how romantic movies were. I was some what disappointed when I realised it does not work like that.
There are 2 kinds of love. Being in love and Loving someone. When you love someone they make you happy, you enjoy their company, and you care about their well being. But this is someone you would not have a desire to kiss or have sexual relations with.
Being in love is different. It is quite hard to explain but I will try the best I can. You get nervous around this person and you feel on top of the world. Kissing them even after being together awhile makes you feel so happy,special, and a different feeling comes over you when you kiss them compared to other guys. I guess some sexual arousal for some people. You will normally see this person more attractive than other people because you are in love with them. You won't be tempted to flirt with other guys because, since you love this person no other guy matters. When you are really in love with someone you will know. Like I said before it is hard to describe love.
This is your first boyfriend, you will probably have alot more or you might not. After you date around (Not sleep around) you will see what traits you like in a guy and what you do not like. Then when you find that special someone you will know.
sorry about this being so long I have a tendancy to talk too much. I am a lonely person and I like to try to help anyone as much as possiable.
I believe the world has changed and love is different for some people now then it used to be.
http://www.progressiveu.org/032913-lupus-uncureable-wait-what
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thanks so much i know for sure that i do love him but im not inlove with him, at least not yet. this i know because i flirt like crazy with others and he does too, soo is like we like each other but we have our awesome together moment and our crazy not together moments, hopefully i will find out what love really is and the world will realize how different it is from when it used to be!!!!!!
Thankssoooooo much friend
Finally someone that knows how to explain what I have been thinking love is. Thanks for the explanation, it put everything in perspective :D
no problems i was trying to be true to my heart and my mind and trying to find a way to explain it so that others could understand. i have a few type errorss!!!!!lol but im happy that you caught da point.!!! thanks
I enjoyed reading about your quest on finding out what love is supposed to feel like and if it still exist - in the "old fashion" kind of way? I think your grandma was an excellent source for valuable advice on this universal question. Your parents rock too. I say this because they've obviously done their job as "good" parents. You have these kinds of questions about love and morality. You're in high school and you've just experienced a first boyfriend. That's pretty good because lots of kids experience that in grammar or middle school, so you're ahead of the curve. What's also impressive is that you are concerned and questioning whether or not you're in love with this guy... cause you really don't know and you don't want to make a mistake, and/or sleep with this guy. Am I right?
Look, I'm not perfect... when I was your age, I didn't care if I was in love or not... I just wanted to get mine. I was not as intuitive or moral as you seem to be. And that was over 20 years ago! So again, kudos... you are doing well for today's standards. I have children myself, girl's in fact... and my advice to them has always been "ABSTAINING" and waiting to have boyfriends until they are emotionally mature enough to handle such heavy things as relationships and the emotional roller-coaster that comes with them. The oldest insist on her freedom, individuality, and good-sense to know how, when, and who she's going to date! Two-out-three ain't bad.
I can go on and give you advice on what love is and if it's still around... but I'm not. You'll have to figure that out on your own. But keep doing what you're doing... asking people for advice and seeking answer's to these very important questions. Your parents are very proud of you I'm sure. For more answers to your questions you might want to check out this site and get one of their "free" books on the subject, "Questions Young People Have -Answer's That Work". Here's the link: http://www.watchtower.org/e/publication/index.htm
Good Luck!