I'm an artist, and I think because of that, I'm forever doomed to be a hopeful romantic. I believe that there is someone out there, who fits within my own life. I hope.... no I pray... that there is a woman that wants to share her beautiful moments with me. When I'm sixty-eight years old, sitting on my front porch, in a creaking rocking chair, I see her there, next to me, holding my gnarled old hand with a gentle touch and a warm smile. In the end I want to grow comfortably ancient with someone that shares my secrets. I just hope that she doesnt try and run me over with the minivan when I screw up.
According to the police in a small town in Florida:
"A woman in Port St. Lucie, Fl., faces charges of chasing her fleeing husband around their yard in a minivan, in attempts to drive over him about 20 times.
Their baby, who was in the back seat of the minivan, was buckled up and was not hurt, deputies said.
It started over a dispute over $300 on Friday between Leslie Ann Brown and her husband, Nicholas. Deputies said he tried to stop the vehicle by throwing a brick at the windshield.
The wife has been released on $2,750 bond, charged with aggravated assault with a deadly weapon and child abuse."
Is that what I've really got to look forward to?
I live with a couple. I know they love each other deeply. No matter the issues, they help each other to resolve them. It's not always easy for them, but they surmount the difficulties. Most importantly, they do it together.
My Uncle John, and my Aunt Molly, have been married for over forty years now. He once told me that he was truly lucky to have found the "one". Then he smiled wistfully, and in a confidential whisper told me he didn't discover that she was the one, till after they dealt with a huge crisis due to his work in law enforcement.
And that's it, for long-term happy relationships. Every other couple I've ever met suddenly goes from being plural to singular, in a fiery avalanche of disloyalty and hurt. Which leaves me with a "What the fuck?!" feeling, time and time again.
I don't want to be the old, jaded guy with only housepets and primetime TV for comfort. Yet, as I get sucked into the media blitzkreig of celebrity relationships, and I watch even them, who don't want for money, or stability, lose thier own loves, it leaves me with a feeling of hopelessness for the rest of us. My own experiences with long term relationships have taught me that if two people are meant to be together then eventually you'll know. The main theme for arguments centered on money issues, so I can understand why this couple in the news had something, so very minor, escalate.
The only wounds I've ever suffered from a woman Ive been involved with were far too deep to be fixed by surgery.
Maybe because I hold trust and communication to be key so there would never be an arguement over three-hundred dollars.
Maybe I just won't date anyone that drives a Dodge Caravan....
I lay my head against the cool side of my pillow, I close my eyes, and watch the after images of the world fade to burgundy, then black. I wait for the slow numbness of unconciousness to overtake world-weary muscles. My last thought is always "I hope I dream of you" even though I haven't met her yet....
Doomed to forever be a hopless romatic? I hear you. I'm the same way. It pains me to see the way so many relationships go downhill and so many marriages end in divorce. And here I am hoping to one day meet "the one" who will take me for who I am, good and bad, and put up with me as long as I put up with him.
And that's comin' at ya' from yer local redneck hippie.
I hope that both our searches end up being fruitful. It seems like the world itself has succumbed to wide spread superficiality. So the quest may be difficult but thats why Im a hopeful romantic, not a hopeless one....
Funny. I'm not so much what I would consider a "romantic" ... but what are your thoughts on Alaska? :)
Just joking. (Sort of.) But really, you sound like one of those people that good people want to spend a life with. We're all searching to not be alone. So far I have only been satisfied via friendships, but I have to believe that I won't be alone forever. And neither will you. Commitment to marriage is frightening for those very reasons you mentioned.
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/kariskoett
"All things appear and disappear because of the concurrence of causes and conditions. Nothing ever exists entirely alone; everything is in relation to everything else."
-Buddha
Alaska is EASILY the most beautiful places on Earth. Im also a huge fan of snow. Its actually in my top three places Id like to live.
I just want someone to give me an excuse to feed them chicken soup when theyre sick, someone that will argue with me at Blockbuster over which movie to see first. Its beginning to seem like it might be too much to ask. But Im not totally jaded yet and this comment has taken some of the chip off....
Well, I'm sure we can't possibly be the only ones in the world looking for something like that. We have hope yet!
And that's comin' at ya' from yer local redneck hippie.
Alaska IS beautiful. I'm basically in love with the place. And we have lots of snow right now... Also, people are nicer here. Not even kidding.
So... what's keeping you from living in your top 3 places? Just go for it, man. :)
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/kariskoett
"All things appear and disappear because of the concurrence of causes and conditions. Nothing ever exists entirely alone; everything is in relation to everything else."
-Buddha
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Personally, if they could have the snow without the cold, I'd think about it... But I hate cold weather, detest it, hate the cold...
I don't like cold weather...
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"when you have nothing else to say, "Fwonk" is always the perfect thing."
"yeah well, fwonk"
--Devon
Fanaile Essence
Tell me how you really feel...
Cold... I guess it does get old after a while. But after our -20 to -40 degree stretch we went through, I'm pretty content with it at zero to 20. Skiing is a lot more fun when you can breathe. :) It's beautiful in the summer - really warm, green, sunny, happy. I recommend it. And I've never met such naturally community-minded people in my life.
If Alaska was a person, we'd be lovers.
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/kariskoett
"All things appear and disappear because of the concurrence of causes and conditions. Nothing ever exists entirely alone; everything is in relation to everything else."
-Buddha
haha. this one time I was living there and the temperature went down to -82. I still have my t-shirt. It says I survived the deep freeze of 1989, or something. :-P
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/sawaboof
"...There is a crushing guilt that comes with being a Catholic. Whether things are good or bad or you're simply... eating tacos in the park, there is always the crushing guilt."
-30 Rock-
relationships can work! it just takes some tlc. and if you really want her, i'm sure you'll find her in due time. there are too many good women who want a man that's committed for you not to find her. just be patient, pick your battles wisely, and be you. oh, and don't play games with us, or we might just catch you with that minivan.
so good luck on your search for love, and don't settle for less!
Yeah thats why right now Im busy in the lab to create the "All Purpose Angry Girlfriend In A MiniVan Detector Device" or APAGAMDD for short....
I guess its a good thing that the only games I play require dice....
an intelligent musician that likes board games... why girls aren't throwing themselves at you, i'll never know. lol.
Yeah, relationships can be some of the hardest, yet most satisfying things in the world. They take work, but they are worth it. I, like you, am a hopeless romantic, a dramatist. I am always wondering if I'll ever find "the one" and I'm sure I will someday. But, I figure I have a little time still, since I'm only 17. So, I just keep my eyes open, and I have a few guys I have my sights on, but I'm not going to try and make anything happen. If they don't work out, then they must have not been "the one".
You'll find someone, don't worry. And they'll be perfect.
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"Everyone feels benevolent if nothing happens to be annoying him at the moment." - C.S. Lewis
You seem like a kindred soul to me.
My whole life I've been a dreamer. I like to see the magic in everyday life, the beauty of nature all around us.
So of coarse I dream of finding that one person who is my souls other half.
So I wish ou the best in your search. I believe everyone deserves to find that one perfect person for them.
As do you. I find myself fed up with anything that takes the magic out of life. In fact, I hated chemistry because one of the first things they taught me is how fire is just a bunch of chemical reactions. That takes all the mystery out of watching a fire burn.
"Everyone feels benevolent if nothing happens to be annoying him at the moment." - C.S. Lewis
"I said to my soul, be still, and wait without hope
For hope would be hope for the wrong thing; wait without love,
For love would be love of the wrong thing; there is yet faith
But the faith and the love and the hope are all in the waiting.
Wait without thought, for you are not ready for thought:
So the darkness shall be the light, and the stillness the dancing." (T.S. Eliot)
It's part of his Four Quartets, in the second quartet called East Coker, third section. The whole thing is long, but good. Maybe it would take you an hour to read. Some people read it religiously every day as a spiritual discipline. I noticed that you're into poetry, so maybe you've already come across it.
www.progressiveu.org/blog/americangirlinchina