Is it true that when you find the guy that you marry or that you know you want to be with for the rest of your life that they tend to be similary to one of both of your parents? The guy that i am dating now is definatly like my dad and i do see us staying together and getting married eventually. Is that just me or does it seem to happen with other people that are in relationships. What is it that we like about our parents so much that we want to find in the guy or girl that we fall in love with. Most people always say that they hate their parents and they never get along and then they grow up to be just like them or the person that they married ends up being just like one of your parents. If we hate them so much then why do we always find a way to keep a reminder about them? I have always wonder that and i have never really found any reason that makes sense as to why people do it. There has to be some reason behind it as to why we look for the simularities. The more that they are like one of the parents the more you end up liking them. Is that what most base their qualifcations on for finding the perfect guy? How do they set their standards for that?
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I'm in a child develpoment class, and right now we're learning about social and emotional development in the first year of life. Parents are the very first friends, first teachers, anyone who a baby connects with. We may deny it in our teenage years, but we are very much attached to our parents, or were very influenced by them im our early years. Children are influenced GREATLY by those they are around the most. So, naturally, we will be similar to our parents and have the same likes and dislikes. So yes, it is logical that girls will pick a guy similar to their father and guys similar to their mother
I found myself thinking about those same kind of questions, and got some answers that may help others understand this phenomenon.
I don't believe that it happens consciously.
-My mom told me that as she was growing up, her father was a distant, more introverted man. She ended up later in life marrying my father who at times could be quite distant, and seem disconnected.
-For people who grow up in abusive homes, you'd think that naturally they would want to stay far away from that type of situation as possible. But most often, people in those situations as children grow up with that being the only way they know a relationship to be. Later in life, they end up marrying somone who puts them in the same situation they may have wanted to avoid.
Hope that answered at least one of your questions...
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heard from many people that you marry someone like your father.
But i don't look for people that are like either of my parents. While i love both of them very much Id kill myself before i married some exactly like either of my parents.
But i have noticed some similarities in the personalities in the guys i date and my dad.
Such as stubborness, but i myself am also stubborn.
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