Cliques: Defined in Webster dictionary as a narrow exclusive circle or group of persons
To me, cliques mean something much different than this textbook definition. For me, cliques represent pain, exclusion, isolation. High-school years are hard enough for teenagers. Hormones, peer-pressure, and busyness all create enough stress. When you put cliques into this mess, it can lead to disaster!
I attended a small, rural high school. I only had 68 people in my graduating class and there was only 150 students in my whole school. In a high school like mine, everyone knew everyone. Every single person in the school knew my background, my family life, my ex-boyfriends, and what I was going to do with my life. Sometimes, I felt that this was a great aspect of my school. Other times, I felt as though it was a curse. Now, looking back on my high school days, I realize it was just that: a curse! Like most high schoolers, I struggled with many life changes during these few years. I was trying to "find" myself, trying to figure out what I wanted out of life. I wasn't part of that gorup of party girls, or those promiscuous girls even. I felt like I didn't fit with any of those groups. If we could somehow get teenagers to accept others for who they are and not the family they come from, how much money they have, or how many guys they've been with, high school would be so much easier for everyone!
I would have to agree with you on this one. The last thing students need is competition.
While I sympathize I dont agree. Cliques are a way to establish a set of friends that are your special group of friends. I do admit that while this is a way of bonding and forming an intimate relationship with a community of people is, anyone who doesn't match any one cliques standards gets sckrewed in the deal. people choose there friend group or "clique" based on the three things valued most concerning your friends: ideas and beliefs, how the look what they wear( dont lie it matters if you think about it), the way they react with other people. I am in the same situation if on opposite ends of the spectrum. I myself denied the clique laws of physics and would slightly change the way i act in differnt cliques to include all cliques. But unfortunately now everyone likes me(i know, im so modest). I know this sounds like a blessing but It's a curse in wrapping papper. I have no intimate relationships because all my relationships are intimate. Everyone is so close to me, and I'm a very impathetic person, that I can't form a strong bond with one person because they already like me as much as everyone else does so the bar I set for my best friend is even higher then the one set by all my friends. This make me the lonliest popular guy in the school and same as you I just dont feel the way the rest of the school does about anything( i am attending a school of 150). It also make it hard with girls. I have so many people demanding my attention, alot of them gsirls as well, that it deters me from trying to maintain a relationship because of the amount of effort it takes to keep someone happy who is that close to you. Not that I have any wanting to be with me. I dont know if I was even on topic or just useing your blog as a therapist, but I think that for the most part you are right. It is wrong that some people dont get to have the highschool experiance because they cant fit in. But you can fit in so well that you are completely different from everyone else anyway. I hope that whatever you were looking for can be found in the rant above.
sincerly,
locke