a reflection on love in our society.
when you hear the word love what is it that you think of?
is love passion?
is love temporal?
is love a feeling?
what is love?
we hear love in 97% of songs (i made up that statistic but you get the idea)
what is love?
now the divorce rate is some where around 50% statistically every other wedding ends with divorce. That is sad and actually very disheartening
How is that, why is that?
i think its cause we buy in to the wrong love. we find the mass-produced love, the name brand love. the one that is focused on feeling and passion. And we miss what LOVE is.
we buy falove –false love-, in every movie, but one on in my DVD collection there is a love story in it. oddly enough the majority of them work out in the end.
these relationships, in the moves may take a little work to get to happen but after that it leaves us with the idea that they are self feeding and on going. The happy ever after!
but i have noticed through general observation that "love" doesn’t really just flow freely 24/7
but actual takes work and effort.
it has been my opinion that LOVE = commitment. and that equation flows both ways.this Quote i honestly believe focuses on what LOVE is
"Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being "in love" which any of us can convince ourselves we are.
Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two."
- Captain Corelli's Mandolin
Captain Mandolin realizes that in love and LOVE are related. However, in love doesn’t always end with LOVE, cause LOVE comes from commitment and a decision past the feelings.
i believe the divorce rate is so high cause people are in love when they marry yet do not LOVE each other. They make a temporal commitment LOVE doesnt ever end. you may be in love, then fall in love again, but LOVE is devotion. and if you are not devoted you do not LOVE.
in our society we want to have every thing easy, every thing done in 3 seconds like a pop tart in a microwave. we want cheap simple solutions.
but the problem is LOVE is not cheap, when you LOVE it will Cost.
LOVE is not simple, most the time LOVE is irrational!
the desire of our society to be independent, self serving, simple and protected actually sets yourself and myself up to never truly LOVE.
sure we will be in love, but whether we actually ever LOVE comes down to what you and I do when the feeling fades, when the polish comes off. and that is a personal choice that with out deep contemplation you are likely preprogrammed by society to Just walk a way and go with the easy answer then to actual invest in LOVE.
Now all this said and typed I have no masters and I have no PHD, you can feel free to quote me, but that doesn’t mean im right. This is just my reflections on what I see.
Some times I question if LOVE is as rare spare time. You hear about it, but not too many ever experience it for them self
Well if any one reads this id love to hear your thoughts!
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