I started writing blogs about my friends death, and I am nowhere near done, but I think before I continue doing this I need help understanding his death.
I have never had to deal with a death personally until now, and I just don't know how to deal with it. I can't sleep, I tear up during the day when I hear or see things that remind me of him, at night I cry, and last night I even tryed talking to him. (I don't know if I am crazy for doing this, but it just seemed right.)
I don't know what to do...I wasn't even really close to this kid, I just know I was with him for his last moments, his last day, he saved my life without even knowing it, he had touched so many lives, and was just to young to die!!
If someone could just please give me some advice on what to do to make me feel better, will he ever give me a sign that he is thinking of me, and although I know I will never forget about him and think of him everyday how do I make it so I can sleep without having to take sleeping pills, what to do?
I recently lost a friend to cancer. I wasnt like his best friend but I go to a small school and literaly everbody knows everybody and everybody knows everything about everybody. It was hard for all of us to deal with his death and I really dont think I have dealt with it. I dont think you really can deal with it. Death is a weird and unknown thing and you will never really understand it untill... well you've died. Theres no tips to dealing or forgetting. All I can say is time. In time it wont hurt som bad or be so fresh but it will alwayse hurt. Just try to think of the good times not the bad ones. That will help a lot! I'm sure that's how they want ot be remembered as a good person and friend not someone who died.
Nothing anyone can say will make it better. The only way to move on is to realize that staying where you are wont get you anywhere.
locke
I think you need to think about your thoughts on death in general-- are you religious? Do you think we just rot? And then try and accept that it happened and move on. Enjoy life. Maybe you should look into seeing a grief counselor. Get a professional.
I don't know what I am....I believe in god and heaven and hell, but I don't go to church and I don't know what I would be considered, Out of all the things I have learned was to enjoy life and live it. I make the best of my time now, it could have been easily both of us and not just him. I know life is hard, and that I will never forget him, but I want to do something about how he died. Like start a charity for him. Is that normal?
Remember the good times you had together, remember the best and the brightest and colour it with some of the real clutzes he/she had....remember them and love them for being who they are.
Remember and try to do the same for your living friends/relatives/neighbors!
Let their passing be an incentive to push you into being better.
IMHO thats the best legacy you can leave and if one of your friends picks it up and continues with it so much the better for all!
Celebrate life.