I am currently attending Southern Utah University and it is my freshman year. Awkwardly, I glance down in mid conversation with Megan from Spanish ,who graduated the same time I did, when I notice a brand new 50 karrot on her left ring finger. I am a strong believer in meeting the right person at the right time but this was quite a reality check. Previously she had been discussing her immaturity and other like issues.Alike to this situation,I never though I'd have to worry about looking for a ring on the handsome guys in class before engaging in conversation.
This situation became even more apparent when it hit close to home. My best friend had fallen quite distant and I did not know why. She had recently moved out of state so I figured she was getting settled. Soon after my curious thoughts, I received a phone call from her informing me of her engagement. An engagement to a boy she had just recently met.
I am happy for anyone who finds real, true love but it kind of freaks me out to imagine the possibility of me in that spot. So make sure ya know that special person and when ya do...GO FOR IT! ..But for me I'll pass, but just for now , just until I am mature and ready. DEAL
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seriosly - do they even have a chance to last? my parents met in college - but dated three years before getting engaged - seems weird to get engaged so soon
I'm all for committing to true love when you think you've found the one, but at the same time, it takes a lot out of having the full college experience. One of my friends got engaged September of freshman year, and he spends all his weekends with his fiancee. I rarely see him with anyone else. I think its cute that he's so devoted, but I feel like he's missing out on a lot too.
-=Michelle=-
The thing that always concerns me about people getting married in college is personal transformation. People change so throughout college! Values change, beliefs change, aspirations and goals change, personalities change. What if two people change in ways that render them incompatible?? I love the idea of people getting married at a young age, but maybe it's a good idea to wait until we know who we really are, and I'm not sure we can know that as college freshmen.
I got married the year before I started college. I was 20 and my husband and I had dated on and off since we were kids and had been living together for a few years before making it all official. Neither of us regret out decision four years later.
I have no objections to young people who know what goes into a marriage and are willing to fight for it getting married, I do, though, cringe when people (of any age) get married after just meeting. It just makes a heck of a lot more sense to me to spend the time really getting to know one another before moving in together, getting married, having kids or any other such commitment.
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~Fallon~
“What is insanity, anyway? Is it when you scream and everyone else whispers, or is it when you fight for what's right, even when everyone else thinks your wrong?” Ethergoth
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I completely agree. If it was a friend of mine, I wouldn't be worried about the fact that she's chronologically young, I'd be worried because she seemed to be making a very impulsive decision. If she was also immature, I'd worry because of that, but maturity is not always determined by age.
I am going into my 2nd year in my relationship and I am definetly waiting untill I graduate from college. I am not in a rush at ALL!