I'm currently in a serious relationship with my boyfriend. We've been together for two years. The topic of getting married has come up quite often in the past couple of months. However, I'm still young and he's five and half years older than me. Couples these days have me wondering do you marry for love or until the next best thing comes along? The thought of getting married and divorcing is something that I don't want to do. With divorce on the rise over the last decade who really stays married anymore? My parents didn't stay married in their first or second marriages. My boyfriend's Dad didn't stay married in his first marriage either. However, when he married a second time the marriage is still going. Hmm... puzzling!
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I believe it all depends on the couple. My boyfriend and I have only actually been together for about six months however we have been very good friends for the past two and a half years. In the last couple months the subject of marriage has come up but it is understood between both of us that before this happens we will both complete all of our schooling. I guess our theory is that if we go through all of that and we're still together we can tough it out for the rest of our lives.
I agree that it depends on the couple. As far as marriage is concerned, I think the amount of stability is also important. As long as you are fighting for every dollar, your relationship risks tension.
Just make sure to think about it before making any decisions, which you are obviously doing now.
Many of us had these rose colored glasses when it comes to marriage, and I think the rules of marriage has changed over the years. However (being married myself and pending a divorce) I have come to realize one thing and it is so simple.
You have to be friends first. You have to really respect this person. Once you have this, you have a solid foundation to build a marrige upon.
I just played the hand I was dealt..... I'm just playin to win ;-) (rapper 2Pac)
I just thought I'd give you a good example to give you hope. My parents met when my dad was a Junior and my mom was a Sophomore in high school. They dated all through high school and college and got married after they had graduated. They went through hard times when my dad was only making about $10,000 a year and my mom was pregnant with her first son, my older brother. But they were able to hold it together and now are still happily married and will be celebrating their 20 year anniversary in August. So just find someone that you're willing to try to make it work with. I think that if you truly love them that you'll be able to find a way to stick out the hard times and make it through.
People tend to not work out their problems and they see divorce as the best option. heating is also a big one. If someone does not feel they could commit to that person for the rest of their lives then they shouldn't get married. Things come up and people change and they grow apart. people don't want to except change so they get out of the situation. You should do what you feel is right. Other people have opinions but it is not always good to go on what friends say because they may be jealous or have some other issue with it. Go with what your heart wants don't worry just make sure you both are mature enough.
Well. Do you want someone special. Do you want something that only you and another person share. Something completely unifying. Thats when you need stop and look at your whole life and see where you want to go and make sure the other person is on board. Times get hard and nothing in life is completely smooth but if there is someone there that singularly loves and supports everything that you are then there isnt much in that can get you down.
I will say that friendship is a foundation step that many people miss out on early in relationships. Infatuations, Sex, and the other person trying to prove themselves worthy always gets in the way. There is nothing wrong with going at your own pace and really getting to know your mate. Pressure is never a good thing when it comes to marriage.
We owe it to the next generation! We need to show that honest love and commitment still exist!
Dont you think?
Nothing lasts forever, but it could last until death....
I was in a two year relationship and it ended. We are still friends, though. I think college age is a great time to go out and be single. There's a lot of people out there to meet. And meeting people is important. Who you meet shapes who you are. How you think of other people and all of that. I wouldn't have meet a lot of people if I was still with the girl I was with. There's just so many unspoken rules within a relationship. Like just having a conversation with someone of the other sex. It's sort of strange.
I don't think there's a better match then the person you marry. Sort of a destiny sort of thing.
With that being said, I also think you can be with one person your entire life. Though, it will not be easy, and at times, probably nightmarish. We are all selfish beings, no matter what, and more times then not the I becomes before anything else, which usually ends up in the butting of heads.
My pastor once quoted his father and said "You cannot expect anything from your spouse." and I think that holds very true.
The "in love" feeling fades, all feelings do. The point is to continue on and find new feelings. Not clinging on to the old ones, and trying to recreate them. Gone is gone. So no, nothing lasts forever, not here anyway. good luck