So I got into a debate the other day on whether or not you are sexier when you're dating some one. I, at first, didn't think so. People can't find you hotter when you're dating some one: you look exactly the same! Plus, especially if it's a stranger, how can you know if some one is taken or single? So basically, we spent half our debate debating what we were debating about. (huh?) ...hehe.
So rephrase: Do you exhibit more confidence when you are dating some one, and therefore, appear sexier?
I think it's a YEAH. I am very much taken, and now more than ever am I possessed by the feeling that I could date anyone I want. Obviously this is not true, but I feel great. Wa-bam. I love looking at a hot girl and thinking, "You want me and you know it."
But then again, this is just how I feel about myself, not necessarily how others feel about me. Maybe I act just the same, and I just feel hot. How confusing is that? You have to love Cooley's Looking Glass Self...
So how about everyone else? What do you think? Are you more confident when you're dating some one? And could this be a big thing for people who only date married men/women (not cool)? Are you more attracted to people who are already spoken for?
And what about the possible conundrum for the dateless? You need a gf/bf to get a gf/bf.....can you say catch-22?
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i would agree that people are sexier when theyre spoken for. wheather its the new level of self confidence or just wanting what we cant have, i dont know. but i do know that it is a bit depressing, and a huge catch-22 for those who are single
sorta: I feel more confident when THEY are spoken for. Which might be bad for their girlfriends. Lol
I have noticed that I am MUCH more extroverted when it comes to somebody who is "Safe", aka: taken. When my friends introduce me to their boyfriends (or crushes) I am much more likely to crack jokes, me loud, laugh a lot, and not be afraid to speak. Noticably more confident. (Which can be bad for all of us if the guy is easily distracted)
I don't know about being more confident when I am taken (it's been so long--2.5 years that I don't really know, I have changed soo much). I would say that yeah, people are generally more confident if they are in a relationship because they have little or no fear of rejection (which makes the world go round).
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I think people do seem more desirable when they are in a relationship for three reasons.
a) They're more aloof- they don't need a relationship or any attention from the opposite sex because they already have it
b) It's like peer approval- you know someone likes the person, so thus, they are worth being liked
c) It's the unattainable- we always want what we can't have