"Kids fight, and are always going to.. but this is getting more and more out of control every year."-Elaine Weinecke of Broken Arrow Public Schools (Broken Arrow, OK)
Walking into the high schools of Broken Arrow OKlahoma you see what you would see in any other school drugs, sex, and violence.. but maybe if this is the first and only time you walk into one of these schools you may not see how bad it actually is. Kids are becoming very infatuated with "ruling the school" or being the most "popular" they forget all about the people they are taking out of the well deserved spotlight and into the shaddows. It used to be the person with highest grades, most confidence, and best clothing was how to gain the spotlight.. now you are shuned because of the minors who think they must cause a scene, or have the most money, some kids even say if they have drugs to sell it gives them confidence and a well known name. 3 in about every 5 kids have done, or currently do drugs. More and more kids are failing classes with every year that comes and also, the kids who bring bombs, fight, do drugs, and failing grades bring a bad reputation to the school and that of course is a let back to all the other kids who actually do the work because colleges know the rep. and aren't going to waste there time with a school who keeps getting worse and worse.. so what can we do?
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scare the heck out of them.
when they are about 11, and they are acting up.....put em out on the streets for a day or two, so that they can see real bums, so that they can see real violence.....and they might actually wake up.
Okay, 90% of the parents in Oklahoma alone, would probably not agree with something like that, so I am going to try to come up with something a little softer.
The teachers for one, most of them anyways, need to stop being so darn serious, and allow themselves to wake up to the students, what I mean by that....is to actually get comfortable with them, and let the kids do the same, not to the point where they can take advantage, but just enough, just as you would do with some pre-school kids. See, most older teachers nowdays, are so tired of their students acting bad, so they themselves act stupid towards the kids, trying to force them to do this and that, and no kid wants to hear that, especially not in this day and age....they are too much about Freedom.
Now, another person who is very involved in this....are they greedy parents. Those type of parents, who do not have enough time for their child, because they are soooo busy trying to make it so that their kids do not have to work when they get their age.....WELL GUESS WHAT PEOPLE, it's actually good for people to put their bodies to work, sitting around in luxuary only makes you happy material wise, but knowing that your parent loved you enough, to spend time with you, to make sure you were doing good with school and your peers, now that's an awesome feeling.
A lot would have to change, that's just the bit that I can come up with right now.
I totally agree, I actually just got doing an oratory for my debate class about this very subject, i think parents and teachers need to wake up.. but in a certaint point i would be numb too.
The reasons for all this to happen are difficult to understand because of there mostly hidden nature.
I will try to explain and outline one of the many reasons on why you are dealing with these misfortunes in school and your surroundings.
All negative situations arising in schools are related to stress and fear that is projected upon a fairly big part of the youngsters of today.
A huge amount of youngsters these days grow up in an environment that contains a constant lack of affection causing to inflict fear and stress into their lives.
A fairly large part of parents today are a bit mixed-up for various kinds of reasons.
Main problem is “MONEY”
Money is and will always be the number one issue in any domestic situation around.
There never seems to be enough around to satisfy needs or to get commonly supported dreams or wishes realized!
This issue causes huge amounts of friction between partners in a household relationship, whether they are couples living together or married is of no importance, the money is!
Failing to get these (money) issues solved creates tensions that are vividly lived and endured by anyone around in these same households, mostly these are young children not having a clue on why or what is happening between their parents that they love both!
This events taking place are lived in such a way they bring fear into their children’s minds, especially when children whiteness domestic violence fear kicks in causing trauma.
One of the easiest dreams or wishes to realize and bring to life is unfortunately life itself.
Most people don’t consider the responsibility this involves and the impact it will have on there actual lives!
Failing to cope with the stress education involves, solutions are being offered in any form and way possible within our present society.
The “additional” stress in life that is projected upon a parent by it’s child can be simply translated by saying that “children are in a constant need of attention”. A child living a childhood were attention is abundant is automatically nourished with key educational elements providing the necessary affection in order to develop emotional skills of empathy that will reflect itself when becoming an adolescent.
Our society of today has been moulded into a “concept” of living that one can compare with a pharmacy. A huge drugstore where we can find everything to relief us of our daily stress!
These days parents have little stress while driving around with their children in their car. When a kid is asking for attention we hand over that Game Boy or I pod in order to keep the peace!
At home we switch on television and tune in on the favourite cartoon channel or we provide an extra television set in order for the play station to connect and keep things quite.
Unaware, in doing so, parents create an emotional gap between the child and themselves.
They not only start to live different realities of understanding, but those different realities will collide when conflicts arise in a later stage of this emotional gap taking its place and evolve in their lives.
Conflicts will manifest themselves in form of mutual misunderstandings that will lead to anger, deception and more worse,
Hurtful or hateful behaviour…… the order in witch someone is subject to them is of no importance because they both lead to the same emotion we fear most….
PAIN!
To handle emotions like these some go to the pharmacy or drugstore in order to find some sort of relief.
Depending on the relief one “THINKS” to be in need for, money will become an important issue!
The bottom line is that you are right and you need to keep believing in yourself regardless of what others might think.
The problem is that most elders of today don’t understand the reality youngsters and their own kids live in and therefore bring or come up with solutions that don’t work and even make things worse in doing what they think is right.
Most elders are concerned just like you but don’t seem to grasp that reality you face on a daily basis.
This becomes to make dialogue a difficult but necessary path to follow in order to open up their eyes and lift the curtain in order to straighten out things for the better.
The reason why this is such a complicated path, I might explain some other time,
If you carry questions regarding my comment, feel free to open up dialogue, that’s why this platform is here for anyway…
Take care,