Sunday, October 7, 2007
It seems as though the immediate public does not favor rather plump women compared to the lanky, model-like statures of thin women. Despite this influence being the consequence of the media - you see thinner women everywhere from advertisements, periodicals, TV, movies, and the Internet (PRETTY MUCH EVERYWHERE!!!) - the issue here is that larger and fat women are not catered to, nor are do they become inclusive in any given social situation. Even in our minds, most of us would depict a thin woman snagging a man, as opposed to a larger woman being able to in a romantic scenario. Stereotypes of the typical fat/large statured women are too often bantered in insulting jokes, and are much too often considered "the ugly one" in reality and even characters in the media.
This needs to stop. I am sick and tired of hearing that fat/large women have emotional insecurities, don't take care of themselves, and are not good enough to ever get a partner. And even if these things are true about an individual, this does not make them a bad person. Such matters have gotten worse over the years, with teasing, sneers, and name calling that would leave anyone feeling emotional distraught and underconfidence from such abuse. Needless to say, only discrimination leaves more and more people hating on fatter, larger people, in general, which is also pointless and cruel.
With all that said, would any one man accept a woman for who they
are, despite their size? I mean, why can a fat man snag a the pretty (thin)
woman, but a fat woman can't capture a "good-looking" guy's attention? Do men actually like fat women at all? If so, why don't they every come up to "fatties" and ask them out? Are they intimidated, or aesthetic comments are not adequate enough for fat women? How could a guy even think that they like fat women when they also think that fat women are ugly? What gives........!!!!
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I am not a guy, so I might not be able to answer your questions fully. But I do know that there are men who would prefer bigger women than skinny ones. It depend on the guys' taste. Appearance is important to most guys for some reasons. We live in a culture where big women are viewed as unhealthy and not beautiful. Hopefully, that will change if Hollywood or t.v. shows would have fat women or men as the protagonists instead someone people can laugh at all the time.
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Considering the responses to this article which talks about a size 12 model being considered "too fat" (not to mention the responses from the Digg.com site, I think appearance does matter, but not necessarily that skinner = prettier.
Granted, there are people that like the ulta-skinny girls, but I think overall, guys/men want something to hold on to, not something they're afraid is going to break in half (according to the majority of the guys I've talked to regarding this matter).
And it makes sense, too. That layer of fat indicates that the woman is healthy enough to have a child (whether or not a man really wants kids, that's the basic, fundamental instinct behind the sex drive - to procreate). A woman with little to no body fat is more likely to have complications and/or be sick throughout the pregnancy because she has no fat reserves to sustain her (they come in handy, especially if you end up having all-day sickness and can't hold anything down). I'm not sure the exact BMI, but after a certain point, a woman's period will actually stop and she will not be fertile until she puts more fat on.
-- quis custodiet ipsos custodes?
There are quite a few guys love big women. Otherwise, there will not so many dating site for big women, such as largeplace.com.
Erica
http://www.largeplace.com
I don't think it matters, does it? I mean, yeah, the media portrays the thin woman as the ideal, but if you're a mature adult, should you really even care what the media says? Anyone with some brains knows all those girls are airbrushed, given hair extensions, false eyelashes , starved, and god knows what else. And it's not nice to slam thin girls just because the media portrays them as being perfect. My sister is a size two and has had five children with no complications, so "fat" doesn't affect anything. On the flip side, I might be skinny, but I eat fast food all the time, so being thin definitely doesn't make me healthier. I think fat people should just stop hating thin people and realize that just because a man might prefer a "type" of girl doesn't mean they won't be attracted to anyone else. When you get to know someone, looks become secondary.
If I`m not mistaken, men from Africa usually prefer big women.
``I mean, why can a fat man snag a the pretty (thin)
woman, but a fat woman can't capture a "good-looking" guy's attention?``
Just to play devil`s advocate, does it matter if the man is fit or good looking? If this hypothetical fat woman wants to be accepted for what she looks like, should she be expecting a man with washboard abs or chiseled features?
My guy has added some weight since he hurt a tendon and had to quit running for several months. His shirts do look better over a slimmer waist, but it`s not his belly I fell in love with.
I am a teacher. I weigh over 200 pounds. I have been married 11 months to a man I knew 17 years ago when I was 130 pounds. He loves me and he likes to hold me. I am very aware of my fat and it makes me feel uncomfortable; however, I know this man truly loves me, regardless of my weight. He tells me I am beautiful. Still, I will admit that societies view on overweight people really makes me self conscious of my weight. I will tell you that my husband also gained about 50 pounds (less than me), he is really handsome. Everywhere we go, women look at him, and I can imagaine what they are thinking (what is he doing with her?). We go to museum's, malls, movies, and long walks. He holds my hand and treats me well. I truly wish I didn't have this complex because I know that we would have a much healthier marriage.