"If you made the bed you'd better lay in it". That's the take that is generally accepted when it comes to the morality of abortion. This, and whether a fetus is a baby or not are the key arguments in the abortion battle.Yet from either side, It's suggested as a rule that the woman in question wanted to have sex. All of the fault is immediately laid upon her shoulders without a second thought. But what if she didn't?
I'm a fence-sitter myself, I think that if the woman was consensualy having sex, she should deal with the aftermath, but also there should be a way for a woman to have an abortion safely and legally under extenuating circumstances. Sexual assault and rape are on the rise, and not every victim feels that she can tell someone about being sexually abused. Having a baby ouside of marriage, rape or not, is still seen as a sign of promiscuity first, and a tradgedy later. The shame and regret that follows could cause the girl, and her entire family [if she does tell] to keep quiet and overlook the ordeal.
Also, What if having a baby at that time would in fact kill the mother?
A sexual assault on a young teenager could very well end up in pregnancy, especially if the girl feels too afraid or ashamed to tell anyone before signs appear. From a medical standpoint, the chances of a perfectly healthy, average height and weight 13 year old girl (or younger) going through labor, and making it out alive are dangerously slim. Not to mention that the strain of a full blown pregnancy can cause a dangerous miscarriage, or nutrient deficiencies that cause the baby to develop defects . The same strain on a fully-developed woman would have less chance of resulting in miscarriage and death, but the psychological hardships would be very much the same.
If a rape that results in pregnancy can be proven, there should also be a way to legally allow the victim abortion, support and protection. Unfortunately, by the time that signs of pregnancy are shown, it would be far too hard to delegate whether the woman in question is lying about being raped or not.
I would like to know why so many people seem to think that having an abortion is consequence free? As though those people who got pregnant unintentionally and wanted an abortion were not accepting consequences?
Abortion is a consequence. It is very hard on the body, and very hard emotionally to go through with. Many of the young people who go through an abortion are never the same. Sometimes they are so overfilled with guilt - no doubt because that guilt is shoved down their throats that it's so immoral and akin to murder - that they end up killing themselves anyway.
I can understand if someone says that abortion is not for them. I can even *almost* understand if a person states that he or she doesn't think another person should go through with an abortion. But I cannot understand why people cannot accept the fact that abortion in and of itself still comes with consequences that the would-be mother has to face.
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It most definitely does have consequences, huge ones in fact. In cases such as non-consensual teen pregnancy it would probably come down to the question: what is the safest way to deal with this?
In the end its up to the girl (or in some cases her parents), and what she wants to do.
There's no real way to come out of situations like these unscathed. Its just choosing the lesser of evils
True, if a women is having a lot of sex and get pregnant, it is her fault. Because if she didn't want that she should have made sure she was protecting herself from it.
The only way I believe in abortion is when a woman is raped or sexually assaulted against her will and gets pregnant, but if your just going to go out whoring around and gets pregnant, thats your own fault.
Hm, wait a minute -
I'm 31 years old. I've been married for almost 3 years to my first husband (not that I'm planning on having a second husband, just that I haven't had one before him).
And I'm done having kids. Not to mention the fact that we can't afford to raise kids. I'm a full time student and do little else outside this site right now and he's a disabled veteran. Am I to now stop having sex with my husband? How much sense does that make?
And why is there no blame on the guy? It's her fault?
It's not all black and white like that. Having a lot of sex does not make you a whore. I'm certainly not one!
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