Sex. That three-letter word that
parents wish we never learned and horny guys wish we’d never forget. While many
girls just “give it all away,” that’s just not who I am or what I want to do. I’m not saying that it’s
horrific to have sex before marriage, but it’s not something that I stand for.
However, in today’s society, being a senior in high school and a virgin is as
common as finding Lindsay Lohan wearing underwear. The pressures to have sex
are enormous in high school, even in the little bubble of a Catholic school I
attend, and the added pressures from the media don’t exactly help the
situation.
I guess it's because of the way I was
raised or just the environment I grew up in, but I didn’t always realize
exactly how prevalent sex among teenagers was. I mean, I wasn’t naïve. I knew that
teenagers had sex, but it wasn’t until I was one out of two people in a class
of twenty sophomores and freshman that was still a virgin, the only one by
choice, that I discovered I was a minority due to the fact that my “womanly
sea” had not been invaded by a fleshy submarine in the night.
In addition to this, the media impresses upon us
that the idea of casual sex outside of marriage is the “normal” thing to do, as
it is displayed on nearly every television station daily. This content makes casual
sex seem cool, and virgins seem like freaks of nature, making my lifestyle
choice even harder. Sexual content is so prevalent in the media that one day a
child might say, “No thanks mom, I don’t want a candy bar in my lunch today.
Just pack a condom instead.”
Why have I made this choice? Well, I guess the main
reason I want to save sex for marriage, besides morals and fear of pregnancy,
is that many sexual relationships among teens today lack love, mainly because they are
extremely focused on the physical. Of course this doesn’t apply to every
teenager having sex, but unfortunately it happens more often than not. I
personally could not be that intimate with someone I wasn’t completely in love
with, or someone I was sure I would have forever. Maybe I’m just weird because I
let my emotions and values overcome my temptations and desires, but that’s just
who I am.
Constant attempts by boys, friends, and the media
will not shake my views and values. Even if I am one apple in a basket of
oranges, one penny in a handful of dimes, I will stand my ground. Don’t believe
me? In about five years ask me how great the sex on my wedding night was :D
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Kudos, darlin. Well done. Oh, and your metaphors made my night. I'm guessing your a writer of some kind. :) Keep strong...marriage will be here before you know it.
-Inept
You have a unique voice, so bravely verbalize your thoughts and opinions. The only person that can stop you is yourself.
I must say I too am waiting for someone I love and trust to have sex, but for me that doesn't mean marriage. I do not want to get married. I also put emotions and such before a desire. I would never just have sex with a guy, I would need to first view them as a friend then as someone I am willing to give my trust to. I still don't get why marriage is the big deciding factor though, why can't a person just love and trust someone and know they are special before having sex, why is marriage the key. It reminds me of people who say well now you are 18 you are a responsible adult but you can't drink, but if you want go ahead and help save our country and die in the process. People don't magically grow to adulthood at 18 it could be before that it could be after. Just because someone is married doesn't mean they are ready for all the responsibilities that come with marriage. I'm not saying everyone has to believe this or something, it is just I find it flawed logic.
I hope with whom ever you decide to have sex with is very special and if you decide to wait for marriage that is also great, I respect you because you haven't tried becoming "just another orange in the bunch".
By the way, I to am a senior that hasen't had sex so don't feel it's THAT uncommon, and personally I am proud to have waited, I know many people who have hung their head and whispered "why did I let him be the first one".
I loved the title for this one it was hilarious.
There are plenty of good reasons to stay abstinent that usually outweigh the reasons to have sex. Physical health, not becoming pregant, and emotional well-being are the biggest reasons. But if I can cover all those bases (to the greatest extent I can) and I know that I love the person I'm with, there's no reason to keep me from being with them.
Not to dash your hopes, but to give you a more realistic perspective, the sex you have on your wedding night, if its your first time (and especially if its both your first time), won't be great. The whole experience will probably be great because it will be frighteningly intimate and make you feel much closer to your husband, but the sex will most likely be very awkward and not feel very good.
Common sense is as rare as genius. ~Emerson
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good for you. i think you'll defintiely be rewarded when you get married =]
It's always nice to know that there are other virgins out there :) It may seem hard to be one right now, but I know it will be worth it someday. People stare at me like I'm some kind of space alien when they learn I'm a virgin lol. I've been going out with my boyfriend for almost a year though, I want to build a really solid relationship if and when we decide to do it. Congrats on keeping your v card :)
`lacey
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