This blog was in part, inspired by Ediblewoman’s blog “A Gay in the Life: Our Dastardly Plan to Destroy the Institution of Marriage” (http://www.progressiveu.org/211551-gay-life-our-dastardly-plan-destroy-i....)
Now, I know this topic has been beaten to death multiple times and that I probably should not bring it up out of its grave, but it has been awhile since I have posted a blog and this subject was the only one that I really felt like writing about.
I am a devout Catholic. I have been since I was really young but there are just some things I don’t agree with. (For instance, I don’t agree with the church’s evangilization policy but that’s a whole nother blog.) However, just because I don’t agree with everything the church advocates doesn’t mean that I lose faith. And just because I don’t see eye to eye with my church doesn’t make me a bad person- just like I believe homosexuality doesn’t make someone a bad person.
I personally believe that your sexual orientation is something you are born with, that you cannot help who you are attracted too or who you fall in love with. Because frankly, there are some guys I would have rather NOT have been attracted to or have liked at all. It’s not like you can wake up one morning and say “You know what, I’m going to love Person X” or “I think I want to be attracted to women from now.”
I have many homosexual friends and they are some of the most devout Christians I have ever met! I have always been taught that God was a loving and forgiving God. So I do not see Him condemning someone or turning away from them because their only “fault” was that they happened to be gay. There are also many things about marriage written in the bible that aren’t really followed anymore: http://www.samesexmarriage.ca/equality/biblical_marriage.htm.
I do not know whether or not homosexuality is wrong. What I do know is that it is not my job to decide whether or not it is wrong. Just like I do not believe that it is the government’s job to decide this. And as such, I do not believe that the government has a right to deny any of their citizens the right to marry.
There are so many legal rights granted in marriage. While I don’t know the exact number of them, I do know that there are a lot. I have also heard that there are more federal rights granted through marriage than there are granted through civil unions. How can these rights be denied to people just because they happen to be homosexual?
Even if gay marriage was legalized, that doesn’t mean any church would be forced to marry them. If the couple wished to live in a “state of sin” it is their decision. As Ediblewoman proved, they really wouldn’t be harming anybody.
I know one argument against gay marriage is that it makes a “mockery” out of marriage. So how do quickie marriages in Vegas, marriages strictly for business purposes, etc. NOT make a mockery of marriage? Those sound more like a mockery to me than two people of the same sex who get married because they loved each other.
The divorce rate in the United States is anywhere from 40-60% depending on who you want to go by, what article you read, etc. Maybe homosexual couples could curb this rate? How do we know that they don’t have the secret to a happy marriage that many couples miss out on? Besides, shouldn’t they be given the right to share in the “misery” that is marriage?
I want you to imagine that you wished to declare your love and commitment to the one you love. Now imagine that you were denied this. Now why don’t you imagine that something bad happened to them- something so bad that they had to be hospitalized. You are then denied visitation because you’re not legally their family. How would you feel?
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The government should not legislate morality.
Thank you for the nod. I'm glad I was able to make you think. I don't know if I PROVED anything, but it seems I may have given people some perspective on the every day impact that legal gay marriage will have on the gay couples affected and WON'T have on straight married couples.
What I appreciate most about your post, though, is your ability to say that you don't have to believe everything the church tells you to believe. That is a difficult and scary thing to say for some people, but it is a nuanced position on faith.
Thanks.
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You proved that gay couples lead "normal" lives just like straight couples do.
Yay, a sane Christian! *happy dance*
II think gay couples do know more about having a happy relationship than straight couples sometimes. They already realize that their relationship is what matters, not legal issues or everyone else's opinion. They have already overcome many things that would strongly pull at a straight couple's bond.
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While I know many couples who put the relationship ahead of public opinion, I know plenty of people who have gotten so caught up in proving their relationship is valid that they forget to notice how wrong their partner is for them. You, know..."my parents hate that I'm gay, so I'm going to be the first to give them grandchildren...then they'll see that my relationship is just as important as my brother's marriage!" Meanwhile, they're bickering non-stop with their partner behind closed doors.
Bad relationships can happen to anyone...I think we should get an equal chance to screw it up! ;) Someone once commented on my blog, "Why shouldn't they be allowed to be as miserable as the rest of us?" Cynical, but funny!
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/ediblewoman
I am a open lesbian myself. It is something I did not choose at all. I did not have any problems with men as a perosn would think. There is nota nything wrong with it. It is completely normal and its my sexual attraction towards another person that I feel. I cannot help myself at all I tried becasue I also had religion faiths but it does not give a right to tell somone about it at all.