True love waits: Three very valuable words to girls these days with strong sexual morals and courage. These three simple words put together could very well be social suicide.
Teens don't want to hear that having sex is bad and immoral they want to hear that if they use a condom, that has a 12% chance of breaking, that they will be fully protected from everything, and girls want to hear that the magical little pill, birth control, can give them wild, worry free sexual freedom, when in fact that is absolutely untrue.
Condoms- they only protect seminal fluid from leaving the penis and entering the vagina, and for all you idgits out there, you can get pregnant the first time, and if your stupid enough to believe a boy in the first place, you are quite ignorant. Birth control- if I do remember correctly protects you from oh, about zero, zilch, and no STD's and condoms do not provide safety against those nasty little diseases either. I know it sounds like I'm preaching but, i am very passionate about abstinence and have no idea how girls can go out, have sex up to dozens of times, get pregnant, and abort their baby, when there are millions of couples out there who are heart broken, because they want a child so bad, and are unable to have one, one in seven couples are affected by infertility. It's sad how kids, 12 and 13 years old can have a baby, and be expected to raise it, when they are still getting allowance for cleaning their rooms. It's ridiculous in my opioion. So remember: TRUE LOVE WAITS and don't let anyone tell you that's wrong, you need to be able to look into your spouses eyes on your wedding night and tell them you waited for them.
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This is very true,
but you also have to look at the numbers for adoption.
There are plenty of babies to be adopted!
definantly!!!
Caity =)
I am totally for what you say, honestly thanks for posting this.
No problem!!
Caity =)
Your info is just a little messed up. Condoms have 98% rate of effectiveness when used properly and consistently. The average failure rate, which you stated was 75%, is 12% which was attributed to improper use and inconsistent use. Condoms protect against not all, but a wide variety of STDs. The pill is 99% effective against pregnancy when taken as directed and it says on every pill commercial that it doesn't protect against STDs, so I consider it common knowledge. That's why you use a condom also or you get you and your partner tested before you have sex so that you know whether you're clean or not.
Common sense is as rare as genius. ~Emerson
Thank you, i guess i mixed it up, excuse me =)
Caity =)
As the poster, its really your responsibility to do the research and to report correct statistics to the best of your ability. Otherwise, if feels like you're purposely perpetuating false facts to back up your opinions.
Common sense is as rare as genius. ~Emerson
"These three simple words put together could very well be social suicide."
i think that used to be the case, but i no longer feel that this is true, at least not where i'm from. guys that had sex weren't really considered cool, and girls that decided to sleep around weren't exactly at the top of the social ladder either...
on the other hand, i think the fact that condoms and the pill are so widely used DO cut down on a lot of unwanted pregnancies and the spread of STDs...i mean let's face it, no matter if you're pro-abstinence or not, people are going to have sex, but now, thanks to education, most people are smart enough to have safe sex, which we should be happy about.
oh, also, in my high school the people that were actively having (or thought to be having) sex were all in committed monogomous relationships that had lasted for at least a year...most people i know were still virgins when they got to college (even the "cool" kids). i think it's a personal choice, and yes it does come with responsibility, but by using protection people acknowledge that responsibility.
--stacie
I agree, that is a great point!!
Caity =)
Waiting for marriage is grand, but as I learned the hard way just because you're faithful to your partner doesn't mean their faithful to you. Protect yourselves even after marriage, get tested regularly.
Pray for Peace
-Crissy
I'm sorry but he's getting tested before we get married.
Caity =)
I really am glad to know that there are other girls out there like me. So many guys have told me that I am weird because I think like this, that no one is ever going to wait for me, that there are no other girls like me out there. Excuse me if I have some self respect, right? i admire you, and all us other girls who wait for true love, and not some stupid boy who's going to leave as soon as he's done with you. And I completely agree with the adoption aspect. My mom was adopted by my grandma when she was 3 days old. Even though it was almost 50 years ago, I appreciate the fact that her 18 year old biological mother decided to keep her alive and made my grandma's dreams come true. (Even if my grandma turned out to be an abysmal mom herself)
That's awesome, thank you for this comment, i respect your decision also. =)
Caity =)
If you want to wait for marriage, good for you. It's true that the more you have sex (especially with people you don't know or trust), the more likely it is you'll get an STD. However, the statistics you put above are very very wrong. I'm not sure where you got them from, but Esuffern put up more realistic information. If a condom is used right, it's actually very effective against pregnancy, and it does protect against many STDs. Condom companies even say that it does not protect against all, and that you should get tested regularly. Birth control is also very effective, and the statistics on that depends on what kind of birth control you take.
http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/contraception/bc_chart.html
This website gives some statistics on the effectiveness of different kinds of birth control. I have to also mention that I've asked several doctors on the effectiveness of different kinds, particularly on the patch and the shot, and they said that the percentage of people who still got pregnant while on these forms of birth control almost ALWAYS did it wrong (meaning they had sex too quickly after getting on them because you have to wait a couple of weeks, or they skipped appointments and didn't get the next shot or batch of patches until later than they should, etc.). So if you have sex with a person you trust, you both get tested regularly, you wear a condom every time, and you use birth control properly and responsibly, there's actually very little chance of you becoming pregnant or getting an STD. All it takes is a bit of knowledge and some responsibility.
-JP
Thanks, i got mixed up. please do excuse me. =)
Caity =)
A few tips on what to avoid when you're on birth control.
Keep away from St. John's Wort. It reduces the effects of birtch control pills by more that %50.
Also many antibiotics such as rifampin will cause your birth control to be less effective, spotting or "mid-cycle" bleeding is one sign that your antibiotic may be interferring with your birth control. Be sure to ask your doctor about any antibiotic, and be sure to use a condom.
Pray for Peace
-Crissy
Thank you, that information is very useful, if i was taking it! ha. thank you from other girls though.
Caity =)
Yes, true love does wait. And I probably wouldn't believe it if I didn't have a religious backround. It's sad that people that I even know from my church are having sex before marriage. So sad.
Pretty much.
Caity =)
"Men who think that a woman's past love affairs lessen her love for them are usually stupid and weak. A woman can bring a new love to each man she loves, providing there are not too many." - Marilyn Monroe
Pray for Peace
-Crissy
That's awesome, thanks.
Caity =)
Thanks for this quote, I think it was necessary :) I understand not having sex until you're married, but I don't think the running slogan should be "true love waits". You don't have to be married to be in love, I've been with my boyfriend for over 5 years and we've both agreed that marriage is not for us. We love each other and may end up spending the rest of our lives together, but marriage is an institution that we both disagree with so we refuse to do it. Doesn't lessen our feelings for each other. And for other girls who have sex with a few guys before finding the right person, it doesn't lessen their feelings either. Married people and virgins definitely don't have the monopoly on love.
-JP
Thanks for the comment, great opinion!!
Caity =)
I also want to wait until marriage. I want a guy to like me for who I am.
Yeah totally, guys lose all interest in your personality when they start having sex with you.
Common sense is as rare as genius. ~Emerson