recently, a friend of mine announced that she was engaged. normally, friends would jump for joy, yell congratulations and give her a big hug.
but then again, i've never been normal.
I didn't jump up, didn't say congratulations, I didn't even smile. My mouth dropped open and I said "what?!"
talk about awkward silence
I then of course tried to cover up my rudness (i guess that's what you would call it) by asking a series of questions, barely giving her time to answer.
what's his name? how did you meet? when did he propose? you've been dating for how long?
none of the questions satisfied me though, in fact, they only made me more shocked and more confused.
God, what the hell was she thinking!?
From that day on, the silence between us grew. she doesn't trust me, and i can't be happy for her.
i've tried, i'm trying! it's hard to be happy when you're scared that it's not for real.
you see, this friend has a history of getting really serious really fast, and then breaking it off in this big, ugly, horrible mess. and im always there for her, but honestly its getting old.
maybe it is for real, this is the first time she's been engaged. but it's also the first time anybody has asked her.
i'm so scared, as the wedding date draws near, i really just want her to be happy. But how can i tell if she is? ive never even met the guy. neither has her mother. why can't i stop caring and just get this wedding over with?
I had the same issues with a best friend last year. She bounced from one relationship to the next, always certain that "This one was different". I understand the fear you feel for your friend. All I can stay is remain her friend and keep caring. What else can I say?
I know it is aggravating, but try your best to still be there for her. Put on a happy face at the wedding if you have to, but make sure you ask her in calm way, assuring her you don't want to start an argument, if she is absolutely sure this is what she wants to do. I wish you luck!!!
I think that you should care but the fact that the guy hasn't even meet her mother that is kind of bad. Do you know how long they have been dating? If it hasn't been that long then it might be a disaster. Just try your best to be a good friend like you are now. Friends tend to not listen...I know this because I have told my friends things before and they end up doing the opposite and what I said to them turns out to be true.