Ok, so I have been thinking on this matter for quite a while now. I have been single for a few months now so I have had a lot of time to think about it. What is the main reason for marriage, or intercourse period? Is it just to reproduce? Is it really love? Or, is it just another way of getting approval. This topic is really close to my heart because my grandmother and mother have always been in realtionships just for approval. I cannot stand the way that they submit to their men. They practically bow down to them and refer to them as master. I have a bit of a sexist attitude, now I really am not sexist, I am just percieved that way sometimes. I guess I refuse to submit to any man but the Lord himself because I do not want to end up like my mom or her mom or her mom. I think that my great great grandmother had a pretty decent marriage, or at least that is the way my grandmother portrys her grandfather. But my great grandmother, my grandmother, and my mom have actually never expirenced a true and lasting love. My great grandfather killed pets and beat his daughters till they were bloody. My grandfather was an alcoholic. And my dad left, and died before I even knew him well enough to tell you the rest of his faults. I know that there is such a thing as true love but the way that people just go off and get married today makes me think that there is and there was never such thing. Well, at least I think that until they see an old couple holding hands in the park. Now that is true love! I had a dream that I was getting married the other night and I felt love in my sleep. As weird as that seems I did. Anyways, what about people that marry for money. I mean, come on, a twenty year old is probably not going to marry a seventy year old because she loves him! Unless, of course, the man does not have any money. Then it is possible that she really is in love. I am just saying that most people in America, in today's society, probably do not marry for love. Now, i'm not saying that is a fact because no one really knows but that person if they are in love or not! And what about people haveing sex left and right. I mean, what if you have sex on the first date and your partner leaves, for good, in the middle of the night. Wouldn't that make the other person feel really bad? I'm not just saying that about men because women do it to! Anyways, the question is, do people in America marry for love, assurance, or approval?
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Those are some tricky questions. I guess it's hard to tell, and by no means is everyone the same. And I too have someone very close to me that reminds me of your mother and her mother and her mother. It can really be a vicious cycle that is hard to break. But believe it or not, the person I know met a man who took her away form all the bad ones, and they have a beautiful child together now and are happily married. I can tell you what I think about it all I suppose.
I am only 18, but I am in deep love with my boyfriend. We have been together over a year now, and friends for about 2 or 3 years. I think that not only do we have the "love" feeling, and not just lust, but we work on every problem we have, and we aren't afriad of what the other person is going to do if we mess up or have a complaint. Neither of us is scared that we are going to be dumped, yet neither of us is scared to be single either.
Personally, I will only marry for love. To marry for anything else would be cheating myself out of happiness. I think the problem today is that people don't know when they are in love or not, and if they are they aren't willing to make the constant effort that is needed.
I still live in the fairy tale world of true love, and I hope I always do