problem with that is that it's completely against my principles. I'd never even consider sleeping with someone unitl that night. And you wanna know what. It wasn't even that great. It hurt and was very uncomfortable and the whole time, I could only think about how wrong it was. My conscience wouldn't shut up. And it sucked. Up until then, I'd lived by my convictions and never set foot outside of them. After I went home that night, I realized the mistake I had made, but I wasn't going to tell anyone. It was going to be my little secret and I would deal with the consequence when they came. That plan didn't work. My parents found out and it was terrible. The look on their faces was unforgettable. I felt terrible and worthless. It hurt me to see them hurt. That was when I decided to never sleep with anyone again (or at least until I'm married). But, since then, I haven't talked about that night at all. I've been pretending that it never happened and trying to get on with my life. I realize, though, that I have something important to talk about and if I can help one person out there who is hurting that bringing the pain of that night again would be worth it.
I believe that abstinence is the best solution to the sex problem. Abstinence is the only way to guarentee no STD's and no pregnacy. It also saves people from emotional pain. I got lucky. I have no STD's and I'm not pregnant, but that pain of giving myself to someone who didn't even care will be with me forever. I'm not going to have sex again till I'm married. I just think that giving a little bit of myself to random people would be pointless and take away from what my husband will have someday. I know I've already hurt him. I haven't even met him and I'll already be bringing baggage into our relationship. I realize what I did was not healthy and will probably haunt me for the rest of my life. I just hope that by sharing this, someone else will realize that abstinence is the best way to go and maybe if they are hurting, the will realize that they aren't the only one.
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I know (before your parents found out) you said you werent going to tell anyone, but in my opinion maybe it would really help to talk to someone about it. If not, it might get bottled up inside.
But definately your decision. Maybe you can wait a while until you feel comfortable talking to someone about it.
Best of luck and God Bless.
It's really hard for people not to have sex these days you know. You were there before, that's how the whole situation got started in the first place. Don't worry, you're moving on already. How can I tell? It's because you post this up and are willing to talk about it openly. It's hard to keep the guy quiet when they have sex with a woman. They like to brag it with their friends. Guys do that sometimes, telling each other who sleep with them and stuff. It's quite disturbing actually. So, be careful. Good luck and keep your chin up.
I can't say I know what you mean...I've never been there...but I do know how it is to feel such regrets...not about sex b/c I'm not having sex till marriage...I live by my purity ring
but as for all of the other bad things I said I would never do...smoking, drinking, doing drugs...I've gone back on all of those promises to myself...I can't even begin to tell you how much it all messed up my life...it taught me so many lessons that I'll never forget...but nothing compares to the pain of letting someone you care about cross that emotional threshold...I got into a serious relationship last year (one I never should have been in...it went against his faith and turned his family against him) I thought we both had the same feelings for each other...and I let things go farther than I should have...then of course...we ended up breaking up about 3 months later...I was completely devastated...what's worse it that we share a lot of friends and he told them things about me that they never needed to know...now they all think of me differently and even though I've never had sex or gone very far ( or with any other guy) they are all convinced differently...and it hurts...
I agree whole heartedly...the best way to avoid this kind of emotional devastation is to just avoid the situation...not to say you shouldn't be involved with someone...even emotionally...but watch the situation...don't let it get out of hand..you never know what opportunities you are throwing away...