What would you do if you found out your best friend was a sex offender??
some one you loved, and trusted like a brother???
someone who was not only the photographer at your own wedding, but who crashed at you house way back when when you threw keggers al;most every weekend,
this person knew all your seacreats, then..one day you get bored and google it up only to find out this person was a regesterd sex offender.
so months go by, you have not talked to this person...you have mixeed feeling..you find yourself analyzing everything.looking to see if there were any clues....any signs...but are forced with the fact, that offenders look normal.....
so then how would you feel if this person suddenly died???
sad, mad, confiused like i am???
i want to mourn my lost friendship, but i can not force the thought out of my mind that , that friend was a sex offender...it's like a big red scarlet letter attached to his forhead...it ruiend any kind thought i used to have for him.....it ruiend my mourning for my lost buddy....
it's like, i wanted to believe maby it would just be because he had sex with a minor. someone under 18 when he was 18...but it was worse...
soit's like, i fel like i do not have the right to mourn for this person, because of the sick crime he did...but in the end....you wonder.
what did he do exactly????
i dont really know what the point of this blog is, i am just in shock mode..i just got the phone call..so i am feelign a bunch of diffrent things at once..it was like a slap in the face.
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Thats a really weird situation and i haven't been in one of those, but i understand the types of feelings you are having. I don't know if its right or wrong to feel bad for the person, but you could always hope that it was a misunderstanding or that they were mentally ill. Just go with what your heart feels. If you feel pity for them thats good too. If not, its not your fault. The discovery is a shock.
my friend patty who used to party with the crew l called me and we talked about it, and we are all like. we know hes dead...but we feel no remorse..does the make us bad people????
we always knew he was a little off, we never saw him date anyone, and we knew he liked the hay clubs, so we just figured he was gay and he'd tell us in time,
but then i saw the sex offender page and it made me il to imagine anything.
i dontknow right now i am just inds of like...well, thats one less person out there who will hurt children...
but then i feel bad for thinking it, but its honestly how i feel right now.
The past is the past, you can not change it. So don't dwell in your mistakes, Pick up the pieces, and instead learn from your downfall.
I just found out a couple months ago that one of my best friends from high school... her dad is in jail for child pornography. Really makes me wonder what went on in that house when I wasn't there, and if that was the reason my friend did a complete 360 our senior year.
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He wasn't one of my best friends, but he was a good friend. And really, aside from always working with children, there were no signs. I mean, I'VE always worked with children, so it never occurred to me that it might be a symptom of something more sinister.
When I found out, I went through a similar mourning period...except he didn't die. He served his time in prison and he disappeared. I have no idea where he is or if he ever got over his predilections. I hope he never reoffended. But it was confusing for everyone who knew him, because we knew him as this amazing person who did really great work at all his jobs. It was really hard to reconcile the new knowledge that he was a child molester with the person we knew. It just didn't make sense.
And last time I posted about this person, a few people ripped me a new one for saying he was a great person. If anyone has a mind to do that again, I refer you to Kiota's post about pedophiles vs. child molesters. I don't have it in me to defend this again. You can read it all there.
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/ediblewoman
Ok so I know a sex offender and I just remembered this now. I used to go to my friends house a couple of years ago and whenever im in her house and she isn't around her father would try to either kiss me or hug me. I was seriously offended. In all my years i've never experienced such horror. He physically kissed me by force and he's married! i told my friend and she kind of shrugged it off or didn't believe me. The other funny part is that my parents and her parents are friends. I never told anyone else because if my dad found out he'd prolly kill the guy and i didn't want any violence involved. It is aqward now cause the guy has cancer of some sort. Anywaiz, i never went back to their house, and i rarely trust anyone as before. Becareful out there, there's alot of weirdos! P.s. don't be like me, say something!