Ladies and Gentlemen: so many pieces on love and lust and wanting relationships to be comfortable, I say you this. Stop.
I've had my uppers and downers in the fashion of modern love. i've come to a conclusion: "modern love" is falling head-into-ground for one person, never looking back, and getting married. This gives us the feeling of comfort and contemporary joy- bliss, really. What could happen if he/she dies and you are left feeling alone? -remarry? Live in depression for the rest of your life? I suppose that due to a recently haulted two-year relationship I experience, beginning at 18, has led me to this newly acquired conclusion, and I'm currently uncertain as to where it will lead. En route for something worth accepting? and grasping onto? or if it will lead me nowhere, with others' attempts to reassure me that marriage is, indeed, okay- not something worth shunning.
There was a long period in my life where I knew I would one day marry an amazing person. That was Disney talking for me, i've learned. No, I never believed in soul mates - the One - but it did seem like something everyone does when they grow older, wiser, and more stable.
My parents divorced when I was five, and as compensation, I always had an intense desire to grow older and find the perfect person to 'complete me.' I met, Matt, fell into excruciating pained love, trying to exceed at having a completely faultless relationship, working so hard, crying often even, hovering and smothering, not only because I didn't really know how to have this kind of relationship, but also for my parent's own failure. I felt I had not only failed Matt and myself, but my parents as well.
I'm an agnostic-atheist, but Jesus Christ had something important to teach humanity in order to save us. Not from eternal damnation; Hell doth not exist to me, remember? Unconditional love- the concept that everyone should be loved equally, including thy neighbor, thy enemy, thy family and friends. His goal was to show us TRUE love, and we have ripped and torn away to create something that could be replaced with the image of a tyrannosaurus slicing through a pterodactyl.
I like the way you write. My dad lost my mom after 19 years of marriage. Not only did he lose her and watch her pass in the hospital, I lost my mother as well and watched right along side him. I believe there is a higher power like God or Jesus but I have many doubts about the bible's accuracy and don't follow a certain religion. I believe that religions are flawed and have stupid rules in which they go by. But I respect other people if they believe different things then I do. I am in love with my boyfriend of 3 years and sometimes it's fun and sometimes it's annoying. But that is how relationships are lol. I like to help people and I am a good person. No matter how much someone is rude and vile to me I understand they are human. Uncontional love is a great thing. I believe movies deplict messages about love being so wonderful and perfect and I always wished that love was like that. it is kidish but hey it's nice to dream...
I am here to inform and help:
http://www.progressiveu.org/032913-lupus-uncureable-wait-what
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I feel where you are coming from. Growing up I never got a real understanding of "love" and marriage. My mom and dad were never married, my half-sister had a different father than me, my half-brother had a different mother than me, and my other half-sister and half-brother had the same father, but their father is different from mine. My whole life I've grown up with half and step siblings. I always wondered what it would be like to have a full brother or sister, and I promised myself that I would never let my kids know the world of half siblings. My father died when I was 6 years old, and my mother married my stepfather a few years after my biological father died. Besides my stepfather, I never really had a male figure in my life, so I feel like that part of me is missing. I want to find someone that I can truly love unconditionally, marry them, raise a family and have this wonderful "happily ever after" life. That's y I pick my relationships carefully. Nowadays so many people r out for the "friends w/ benefits" crap and that is the total oppositte of my philosophy of a reltionship between a girl and a guy. Not to mention the fact that I attend a school where girls will do anything to hook up w/ a guy, and guys use girls as sexual objects that they believe can be discaded at their discretion. Maybe I'll find the right guy someday, but until that day, I guess I'll just take it slow.
That is really interesting, because I have four stepbrothers and one main factor as to why I have realized that loving everyone is really important is beCAUSE i have stepbrothers, you know? I got to know other people outside of my own primary family really well and grew to like and fully understand each and every one of them. sometimes i feel like every child should go through a divorce and remarriages. obviously that sounds really silly, so i dont entirely agree with it, but it truly has turned into a 'blessing' so to speak for me and hopefully for anyone else.
I feel where you are coming from. Growing up I never got a real understanding of "love" and marriage. My mom and dad were never married, my half-sister had a different father than me, my half-brother had a different mother than me, and my other half-sister and half-brother had the same father, but their father is different from mine. My whole life I've grown up with half and step siblings. I always wondered what it would be like to have a full brother or sister, and I promised myself that I would never let my kids know the world of half siblings. My father died when I was 6 years old, and my mother married my stepfather a few years after my biological father died. Besides my stepfather, I never really had a male figure in my life, so I feel like that part of me is missing. I want to find someone that I can truly love unconditionally, marry them, raise a family and have this wonderful "happily ever after" life. That's y I pick my relationships carefully. Nowadays so many people r out for the "friends w/ benefits" crap and that is the total oppositte of my philosophy of a reltionship between a girl and a guy. Not to mention the fact that I attend a school where girls will do anything to hook up w/ a guy, and guys use girls as sexual objects that they believe can be discaded at their discretion. Maybe I'll find the right guy someday, but until that day, I guess I'll just take it slow.
I feel where you are coming from. Growing up I never got a real understanding of "love" and marriage. My mom and dad were never married, my half-sister had a different father than me, my half-brother had a different mother than me, and my other half-sister and half-brother had the same father, but their father is different from mine. My whole life I've grown up with half and step siblings. I always wondered what it would be like to have a full brother or sister, and I promised myself that I would never let my kids know the world of half siblings. My father died when I was 6 years old, and my mother married my stepfather a few years after my biological father died. Besides my stepfather, I never really had a male figure in my life, so I feel like that part of me is missing. I want to find someone that I can truly love unconditionally, marry them, raise a family and have this wonderful "happily ever after" life. That's y I pick my relationships carefully. Nowadays so many people r out for the "friends w/ benefits" crap and that is the total oppositte of my philosophy of a reltionship between a girl and a guy. Not to mention the fact that I attend a school where girls will do anything to hook up w/ a guy, and guys use girls as sexual objects that they believe can be discaded at their discretion. Maybe I'll find the right guy someday, but until that day, I guess I'll just take it slow.