Please read all of this, it will really help me out and I appreciate it as well.
Well recently my boyfriend(well he was my boyfriend) and i have been trying to make things better. The past week things were going great and I didn't do anything wrong and neither did he. Well yesterday I got back from vacation and he was working. I had a bad feeling that he wasn't at work because he told me that I shouldn't come and visit him because he would be busy. Well I asked my friend who works there if she seen him working there and she said no that he wasn't working but someone else was. She told me that he wasn't on the schedule to work that day. I asked him about it and he said he was there. He promised me that he was there yesterday. Everyone else at his work said that they didn't see him at all yesterday and that someone else was doing his job. So it's almost like he wasn't there. He kept saying he was there and he got mad at me because I didn't believe him. Well he got mad at me and wouldn't talk to me and all this. Like I told him that I didn't know what to believe. I told him it was hard to tell.
Later on he said that he didn't want to be with me and that he didn't actually love or care about me at all since we've been together. We've been together for a year and a half. He said that he is done dealing with my stuff and that he is done for good. He's broken up with me different times and took me back. He was saying some of the most horrible stuff ever. He kept saying he hopes I burn in he** and stuff..and kept saying "fu** you" and things like that. He was saying that I'm nothing but I failure and that I suck at everything. It was horrible and I don't know why he got so mad and stuff. I told him I was just asking him about it and making sure that he wasn't lying or anything. He shouldn't have gotten so mad.
He usually always gets really mad at me for things that aren't even really bad. I mean if no one seen him at work and he said to not come see him then what am I supposed to do. I have a feeling he was at home the whole time because his grandma would not let him stay out for four and a half hours like that. Thats how long he worked. I want to think he reacted like that because he was already in a bad mood but then again I have no idea. I really don't want this to be the end because he is everything to me. And I don't know what I mean to him. Last time we talked he was saying that I don't mean anything to him and that he doesn't care what happens to me. I don't understand how you can love someone and be with them for over a year and then all of a sudden not love them anymore because they wanted to know if you were lying. I was thinking maybe he was lying about it because I wanted him to come on vacation but he said that he didn't have all of the days off. He usually gets at least three days off, and if he did work yesterday then he will only have two days off. And that's kinda hard to believe. I think he might have not wanted to come with me on vacation so he lied about having to work but I don't even really know. I know he didn't go anywhere else yesterday because I heard a tv all the times I talked to him and he usually leaves his on. So if he didn't work he was def at home.
Anyways I guess were not together anymore. I think the reason why he got THAT mad and said them things was because him and his grandma, who he lives with, got into an argument or something before that and she doesn't want him living there. I was thinking maybe he was taking things out on me or something but I don't know what he meant and what he didn't. At this point I don't really know what to do right now. I want to talk to him but he won't talk to me at all and he will just keep getting mad. I don't know what to do. Should I just give him time to cool off for a couple days and call him back and talk about things or should I just leave him alone all together until he tries talking to me, or what? I really need some advice. I'm really upset and I don't know what to do with myself.
I hope you read this all, sorry it's long but I might as well tell the whole story if I want advice. PLEASE help me out! I REALLY need it.
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He was saying some of the most horrible stuff ever. He kept saying he hopes I burn in he** and stuff..and kept saying "fu** you" and things like that. He was saying that I'm nothing but I failure and that I suck at everything.
I'm sorry. You want him back why?
Really, I think you can do better. Go fall in love with someone who deserves it and will love you back.
Please don't reply with "he didn't mean it" or "he was having a bad day." He meant every word of it. From the sound of it, this is a recurring thing. He's an asshat. I vote you drop him. Ignore his calls forever. Block him from your Myspace. Change your number. Move on with your life; you've given too much of it to him already.
That is my advice to you.
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I second this. Even when my boyfriend were at our worse fighting (and we got into some pretty nasty fights), he never tried to bring down my self esteem to the point that your guy seems to have tried to do.
So, I see one of two situations here. Either 1) He's just a flat out jerk, and you need to move on, or 2) you're not representing yourself accurately, and are way too clingy, in which case... you need to move on.
Put him out of your life, however hard it may be (and yes, it will be hard), and find someone who treats you better.
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>.< why are you encouraging this type of behaviour on this site?
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Maybe one should try to mind its own…. NO?
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Although moving on is hard it is better to just let go. The fight to me was stupid and my boyfriend has said worse or equilvilint things to me ( it was a different situation though a long time ago)
You need to focus on yourself instead of your boyfriend. It sucks that you have been together so long. It also sounds like he is saying those things out of spite. You don't stay with someone a year if you don't care about them. Let him go and don't take him back there will be plenty others. :)
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Give him LOT'S of room. If he tries to contact you, fine, see if you can work it out, but from the sounds of it, you won't be able to. If he doesn't contact you, move on, as that is what is best for you. Look at the signs:
He is lying to you.
He yells at you for no good reason ie verbal abuse.
He is being controlled by his Grandmother.
He does not want to be with you, as shown by breaking up with you, and you are the one to make ammends.
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Yes, examine yourself. It is the first place to start. Why do you want him back? Is it because you are clinging onto the hope that someone would love you? Is it because you like the mental abuse he gives you?
I think you deserve better. Unless you can convince yourself of that by knowing what you really want and need, you may not be able to achieve that for a while.
Your best bet is to drop him and move on. It won't be easy, so focus on what makes you the happiest that doesn't involve him. Reading books? Going shopping with your best friend?
Just go on and make the best of your life without him. If he matures and you still want him, make him prove that he has changed from this lying jerk to someone worth your love.
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Apart from the fact that he is behaving like a jerk, I believe it might be better to shift your focus away.
You are pushing through his comfort zone!
It is extremely annoying to have someone check on every aspect and behavior of your daily live, regardless whether you’re lying, yes or no!
I believe he is suffocating inside the love affair you are or have been sharing together.
Believe me when I say he does not love you!
I ignore what might be your attraction towards him, but I guess you should try to review the way how you go about a relationship.
The main reason why boys resume a relationship is mostly because of sexual reasons!
Show him you’re not a failure, in order to do this, it is important to trigger your self-esteem to arise.
Shift your focus and jump back in the pool….
I you carry any feelings for him, lose them and get over it!
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