Polygamy: then and now

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Polygamy is a very ancient practice found in many human societies. The Bible didn't condemn polygamy. Basically ALL passages in the Bible where the practice of polygamy is mentioned also give a vivid picture of the problems coming with it. There is NOT ONE passage which talks about the blessings of polygamy. But there are dozens of passages where polygamy is reported and it is always resulting in trouble, jealousy and strife. It is always accompanied by unhappiness. If one is at all sensitive to the meaning of stories, and the impact of storytelling and the teaching through stories even without stating things as "clear doctrine", then one will realize that this is more than a subtle hint that polygamy is not recommended at all, and by exposing its reality it is actually warning strongly against this practice. To the contrary, the Old Testament and Rabbinic writings frequently attest to the legality of polygamy. (King Solomon is said to have had 700 wives and 300 concubines).

Today, polygamy is still practices (in some Muslim countries, for example, or among Mormons). Strangely, even if women all over the world demand for more rights, these wives don’t feel underestimated at all. For them, the notion of relationship has completely other meaning.

 Do you consider polygamy an offense addressed to women worldwide? Do you think it takes away some of the women (individual) rights? Do you believe that this practice is ok, as long as both (or better said ALL) sides agree?

 

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jaybudge's picture

I personally would never ever practice this...i mean i don't even like it if my boyfriend is checking out another girl let alone marrying them! I believe that it is ok to practice because obviously, it is a personal choice as long as both sides agree and everyone involved is aware of the situation. There are also things people do today that could be considered a form of polygamy such as "open relationships" and being "swingers" and etc. without such a commitment. So if the people involved are happy with the situation and its obviously not hurting anyone than I say go for it.

Joycen Catibog's picture

There is no problem if both sides agree because both of them already know the results of their decisions and was therefore prepared for it. The problem are those who misunderstood them thus have misconceptions about it.

Members of the mainstream Mormon Church DO believe in polygamy, but only in the hereafter when the worthy males become Gods of their own planets.

Fundamentalist Mormons believe that the only avenue to exaltation is to live the principle of polygamy. Women don't outnumber the men in these communities. In fact, they force the young men to leave to ensure there are plenty of women for the older men who are in power.

This lifestyle is very demeaning toward women. They have no say regarding their own futures. This is when a choice is not really a choice.

Polygamy, or more acurately, polygyny, does not align with democracy.

tangle's picture

Do you consider polygamy an offense addressed to women worldwide? Do you think it takes away some of the women (individual) rights? Do you believe that this practice is ok, as long as both (or better said ALL) sides agree?

I used to find the practice of polygamy offensive to women, but I have since become more enlightened. I took a class in Colonial African History, and embarked on a research project looking at ways indigenous social institutions were affected by European colonization. In doing this research I found that polygamy as practiced by many, many native African cultures actually allowed for women's status to increase in households with multiple wives, as well as for the lifestyle of the wives to become more lavish and luxurious. The women who go into such marriage arrangements have not been brought up in our culture and therefore they are not burdened with concepts such as fidelity; jealousy is not an issue. If this generates any interest I'll post more on the intricacies of these arrangements that I found in my research. In fact, I might even create my own post about a particularly interesting indigenous African social institution. . .

Anyway, all I'm getting at here is that when considering something as foriegn to our culture as polygamy, it is important to maintain a degree of cultural relativism. Just because it seems bizarre and difficult to comprehend doesn't mean that it isn't a viable alternative to what has become the norm in our society.

/jkh

Polygamy is not practiced by Mormons, it is practiced by Fundamentalist of Latter Day Saints. They broke off from the Mormon sect a long time ago.

I do not think that polygamy is bad in some religions, because in some forms men only seek other women to marry when their wife cannot have a child or have a chronic or terminal illness. Other religions practice by having different wives in different homes, but anyway, it is alright.

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