To me drinking in general is wrong. I don't like it when people drink because they can be unpredictable and rude. When my girlfriend drinks (and not just her, but most girls) she gets all loose and just doesn't care about anything. I hate it when she drinks! Now if I’m around sure I’ll still be mad, but I won’t be as mad. On the other hand, if she drinks with people and I’m not around then things will be bad. So the question is should girls drink with strange people that aren’t known to the boyfriend?<!--break--> People may say, "You’re just over reacting." or "Why don't you trust her?” Well I’m worried because when people drink they don't think straight. When your girlfriend is with guys that don't care for her like you do then nothing but bad will happen. And no she's not the only girl there because that would be stupid, but her friends can't be trusted either. The people that I know that drink, nothing good has come into their lives. Everyone I know that drinks either lives in a broken home or has some serious issues going on in their lives. I want the best for my girl and I really don’t think drinking will put her in the right direction. Why do you think your body rejects alcohol? It’s because it doesn’t belong in there, its poison and that’s why you throw up. Anyway drinking to me is bad, but when you’re in a relationship its even worse.
I agree with the idea that drinking enourmous amounts is poisonous, but there have been studies done lately that suggest a glass of wine with dinner, or even a beer can have health benefits. The problem, to me, is that people don't know their limit and over do it. What you're talking about is kind of similar. I think if your girlfriend knows her limit (and I hope she's over 21!) then you should trust that even if she has a few drinks, she'll have control over herself. I'm not suggesting anything about your girlfriend's character, but you should be just as worried about her actions as you are the guys around her when she's drinking. She's the one who is most responsible for her actions and reactions to those around her. I hope you've talked to her about this because it's important for her to know you care enough to be worried about her.
How progressive.
If you don't like what she does, dump her. You won't change her. You can't control her. Get over it.
I totally disagree. I think people are definitely capable of changing, especially when they know they're hurting people they care about.
People can change, yes. But that's not what I said. I said that he won't change his girlfriend. She may choose to change, but she has to make that choice. It isn't up to anyone else.
Nice one Rachel, I agree. Stop trying to manage your girlfriend like she's your child, it's just creepy. I'd hazard a guess that what's really eating you is the fact that your girlfriend is probably more fun than you and has begun hanging out with guys who are also more fun than you.
Why don't you just find a nice t-total girl that actually suits you and stop tryin to mould and control girls who's lifestyles differ from your own. You and Chevyman seem to view women as helpless dummies who need your mighty manliness to steer them right, although I could be wrong about this, maybe you picked up you're broads from the special-ed class. As for people who drink living in broken homes, what-the-fuck??!!! You are living in a fantasy land fella and you're girlfriend is not, get over it.
I am a male who has had experience with my girl drinking and not being able to trust her. I feel you on that one 100%. Don't listen to what other people say about not trusting her. Do what you got to do to keep a healthy relationship. When it comes down to it, it's not about trusting her, it's about whether you can or can't trust the alcohal in her system. I'm sure you trust her 100% when she's not on drugs or alcohal, but once she's on drugs and alcohal, you never know what she'll do. We broke up cuz some bad stuff happend because she drank one night, and she regretted it soooo bad because it wasn't her behavior, it was the alcohal. So trust me, especially if she has friends that are bad influences, try and turn her from those friends, and turn her from alcohal, especially if your not around. For me, my girl loved me so much that she was willing to quit all drugs and alcohal for me to have me back, and the stop hanging out with the few friends i didn't like. Ever since then, we've had a great relationship, it's never been better. I'm not saying be controlling, but be caring of what she does and who shes with. Take control in taking action to have a healthy relationship because alcohal, and drugs can have negative effects.
I too am a male, and like every man I have had experience with not being able to trust girlfriends. But it is nothing to do with alchohol, ya just can't trust some bitches fella. There's a saying "in vino veritas", it means truthful when drunk. If your lady gets it on with some dude and blames alchohol, I suggest you look a little deeper, maybe she just wanted a bit of dick on the side but also the benefits of a boyfriend and all that goes with it, and maybe alchohol provided her with an excuse to just go get that dick. Maybe you are her safety net, the one who cuddles her and says nice things and buys her presents, and then maybe she has her drinking buddies who are just sex. I mean guys do that shit all the time why not your girlfriends? Women are not as stupid, helpless or pure as you boys seem to believe, plenty of them are just like the drunk guys you are so worried about.
I agree with u, I was in the same situation, and how and I didn't understand how my girl thought she could be responsible while drinking and she didn't understand how guys would try and take advantage of her. Especially when her friends were under the influence as well.
I seriously think that, not just females, but a lot of males too, drink just to have an escuse. No thats not the only reason, but it's like when they drink and do something stupid their escuse is, " Oh uh...I was drunk when that happened." You know? It's retarded! Why put yourself in the position to do something stupid?
talk it over with your girlfriend but realize that there is a chance that she will go out drinking behind your back and if she accuses you of not trusting then argue that it is hard to trust anyone who does not respect your feelings. Alchohal deeply impairs a persons thought process and anyone who says that they have never done anything they regretted doing while they were drunk they are either telling lies or can't remember the whole night. You are totaly correct in carring about your girlfriend. If things don't change (they might not because it is very hard to change a fault like that) then dump her and find someone who can stay sober in proper society.
I disagree on what you said. I`m sorry, but I think if you don`t trust your girlfriend with her friends, then there is something wrong in the relationship. Loosen up, drinking can be fun, but I`m guessing your girl knows her limits. I'm also guessing this is not he first time drinking, and if she's been drunk before, then she should know her limits. It's her life, and her choice to what she wants to do. You are just there to guide her, and tell her what is best for her, and the rest if up for her to decide. Both guys and girls drink. It's just like that, it's really fun too. I think you are being too stereotypical when you said that the only people you know drink either live in a broken home, or have serious issues in their lives. Are you saying everyone in the world who drinks have broken homes, and have issues? Can't they just have fun on their own? I myself have a girlfriend, and I bring her to parties with me and such. She sees me drink, and she doesn't get mad at me. The reason why she doesn't get mad is because she knows I am old enough to know my limits, and is responsible enough to take care of myself. She' just there to have fun, and take care of me or what not. I suggest to trust your girlfriend. I mean has she done anything bad that would make you mad when she was at a party? I think you are allowed to be mad when she goes to parties and actually did something that she would regret, you know what i mean??? I don't think drinking is bad in a relationship, you have fun, live life to the fullest. Don't be a controlling boyfriend because whats good in that relationship if you guys do to whatever you want right??
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Is your girlfriend the only one that drinks in the relationship? Because if you drink too, I think that's a terrible double standard.
But if it bothers you that much, then talk to her about it and get your issues resolved.
I would be the biggest and loudest hypocrit(i don't know how to spell that) there is if I also drink. I have talked to my girlfriend about everything and we set some rules and guidlines and stuff, but she's still gonna drink. I hate it but i can't go into her brain and turn off her wanting for that retarded depresant.
Girls can drink around people her boyfriend doesn't know. You don't have to know all her friends in order for it to be "ok" for her to hang out with them. That's a ridiculous idea. I think it's ridiculous you said you set "rules and guidelines"...How about a goddamn compromise.
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