Okay, what is this huge controversy about people always ratting on mothers about the care of their children? Why are they always saying that someone should take their children away? What nerve do you have to say something so terrible about another human being. I do understand that some parents do hurt their babies and that is so wrong; but, there are also those good parents who are falsely accused by gossipers and people who are being busybodies.
If someone ever said something like that to me, I would probably beat the mess out of them and make an example of them, whether right or wrong. Those kind of people generally don't have children and are quick to judge and try to take someone elses children to suffice their mailicious deceit.
Being a mother is scrutinized frequently...god forbid if we say or do anything that some total stranger feels is out of line. Or if a kid throws a fit and you spank their bottoms, it is called abuse. Or just disciplining your child so he/she doesn't turn into a freaking lunatic that runs around killing people. I don't get it!
I love all my beautiful babies and I'm sure every mother has over-reacted about certain issues, yelled, screamed or just lost your temper with your child. If you say you never did...you are a liar, cause you either never had a child, you are a zombie or they haven't reached their terrible twos or teenager stage. Some children require more structure than others unfortunately and that generally leads to more input from the busybodies.
Just last week, I was waiting with my son out in the vehicle while my husband went into a local gas station. I witnessed something that no mother should ever have to go through. Her husband was just sitting in their car not helping her...she had four kids and they were all acting so bad to the point that she started crying from exhaustion and despair. Finally her youngest slapped her and she had enough and she smacked his hand.
I felt so sorry for her cause it was then that I seen this old crotchety lady that worked in the gas station that just stared at her and said, "Poor Baby," I'm going to call the cops. The lady looked at her and was like why, I didn't do anything. Needless to say this wasn't setting a very good example to her children and making her look bad for no reason.
So, I stepped in...I grabbed my son and told the mother not to worry cause I witnessed the whole thing cause I was right beside her. The lady in the gas station said she hit the young child in the head, I told her she was a liar cause I heard and witnessed the whole thing and she was inside checking people out and only got a glimpse what was happening. That pretty much shut her up! I told her to mind her own business and to apologize for treating that mother that way. She didn't...she just fumed at me and her boss walked in, in which I knew him and a few days later she did it to someone else and got fired for interfering in someone elses business.
I mean when has it come to be wrong to correct your child who just hit you for no reason other than not giving them what they want. It isn't men that are looked bad upon, it is women unfortunately. God forbid if we make any mistakes or correct our children. I'm just sick of people talking about mother's. That young mother had been crying so badly at that point and I talked to her and gave her my phone number. We talk all the time now, we are good friends, and she is a good person and a good mother.
The moral is: Don't judge lest ye be judged! Meaning don't jump to conclusions or wish terrible things to people or to have someone's children to be taken away. There are enough children that have been taken from loving homes already. Dig deep inside yourself and search for the right answers, not the wrong ones. To all those mothers out there that have young children, are going through stresses in your life, been hurt or abused, etc. Remember to breathe cause it will get better. Don't pay attention to the negative things, just focus on the positive...somehow Our God will supply all of our needs according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.
Ya'll take care...Remember To Love Each Other...and be kind to one another! Goodnight and God Bless!
I'm not a mother myself, but i totally agree w/ you. I believe children needs discipline. But not nowasdays. These days kids aren't allowed to be disciplined. but then when they go out and do some horror crime, everyone look at the mother.
I hate hearing about innocent people being acused of abusing their kids. people seem to always call cps on the innocnet parents, but never seem to notice the children that are being abused.
That lady should had been fired. it's not child abuse, it was parent abuse, and the mother had every right to correct it.
I took something very different from your blog than children need disciplined, its that people are jumping all over mother like their excuse to take their frustation out on the worl just manifested inmothers. And they usually don't have kids. You're right about not being able to be this perfect ideal. The only mothers who make it 100% of the time are usually mommy dearest, and their driven neurotic by this idea of what SHOULD be. Sometimes I think if I hear some teenager, or immature person talk about kids as if their the most annoying things on the planet and how parents should do this and parents should do that and parents don't have any control over their kdis and parents blahblah blah and kids shouldn't be ALLOWED IN society to bother their pretty little world...I want to advocate retroactive abortion on the little snots I'm sure they were.
(Ok I'm being REALLY harsh here...I'm just another frustrated mother I guess.)
Proportionately I hear a lot more people criticizing mothers for not being superwomen than criticizing dads for not getting off their tushes and helping out.
but....I think its getting late and I'm soap boxing again.
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