Why is being a good friend so hard? I mean I have always tried to be there for all of my friends but now things are getting way to hard. I hate taking sides but its something that is happening no matter what I try to do about it.
Its like my friend Sarah. Everyone was calling her a whore and talking bad about her. Well I stood up for her; nobody should talk about her like that. She was very happy with her “boyfriend”, only she didn’t understand that her “boyfriend” didn’t consider himself as that at all. I recently went through the same thing and tried to help Sarah understand so things wouldn’t be so hard on her when he did tell her with out dropping hints. Well she told me and for the first minute I felt bad that this guy had called to tell her he didn’t want to be with any one for a while and whatever else he said. Then Sarah told me that she was still talking to her ex! And she had a date with him the night after she and the other guy had broken up! How could I take up for someone like this? Her “boyfriend” even called to apologize then found out everything! She told me that he needed to come get his class ring because Pawnshops wouldn’t take it, but as far as I know he has already tried to get it from her.
Then she is going to talk about Patrick and Michelle! And I am like Chick, the least you could do is not talk about my best friends when I am standing right here. So after saying my speech about Michelle and Patrick, we started talking about something else. I mentioned my friend Kane, and she wanted to know why in the H*** I was hanging out with him. I explained that His girlfriend has spent sometime at the house and he came over there with her. She began to tell me how big of a whore she was! Now Sarah is a good friend of mine and I love her to death, but she has no right to call anyone a whore especially when she made the statement once that her goal was to sleep with 50 guys before she got married. I don’t want to take sides, but Sarah knows I don’t roll with the talking of my friends, and I am fine as long as you don’t talk bad about Santana, Shelly, Michelle, or Kimberly and Sarah was about to go down the line. Well she hit 2 before I walked off and said I had to go. I really don’t want to take sides but I am getting very upset with Sarah! And she needs to lay off, but then again what do I know, everyone is going to talk bad about someone.
Do I need to tell my friends what is going on or let it lie?
Do I need to take sides or just play it cool and try to let everything go and try to relax?
