I love shopping, but I love metal music
I love science, but I have a social life
I am an athiest, but I have morals
Where and when did I get the idea that each of these things couldn't go together? Where and when did the majority of everybody else?
Highschool is "hell" and I doubt you will find many graduates who say that nothing bad or negative ever happened in their four years there. This blog is not about me feeling sorry for myself or me illiciting pity from others, it's simply about me :)
I can remember hanging out with "gothic kids" one day and thinking I had made some really cool friends and the next day when I showed up wearing a pair of pink A&F flip flops they didn't talk to me ever again.
I can remember hanging out with "preppy kids" and having them not fully accept me because I didn't think it was all that exciting to talk about people behind their back.
I can remember being at my 4-H club meeting and having a parent ask if I'm involved in community service at my church. I informed her I was atheist and curiously enough neither her nor her kids ever talked to me or sat near me again. When I was elected President of the club last year she looked absolutely disgusted.
I don't believe kids my age set up cliques on purpose, or adults either for that matter. It's perfectly normal for people to be around others who believe in the same things they do or do the same things they do. We create cliques and label other people as things like preps and goths in order to make broad generalizations about other people. It's so much easier to say that person is of this clique so I shouldn't even talk to her/him- we would never get along.
I was guilty of doing this too. Then I stopped being a dumbass. I used to be incredibly insecure in ninth grade, and I feel like the rest of my grade was too. Just in this past year I have seen amazing changes take place though- I see kids who used to hate each other for no apparent reason now being peaceful to each other in the hallways. I see people who love science class doing stuff outside of school with people who really don't like school work.
Luckily, I realized somewhat early on that there's always going to be somebody who dislikes you because you wear Manson shirts or because you happen to think Biology is really really cool (which it is!) Also luckly is that I've learned to be happy with what I do and who I am and that I can be friends with anyone as long as they're friendly.
I'm a nerd, I'm a metalhead, I'm an Abercrombie addict, I'm an atheist, I'm in love with helping others, I'm a damn hippie :)
`lacey
Certainly can related but in different ways. And what you're saying is so true. Are you out of high school yet? If so, that's awesome you think of things this way. Usually, people don't see it like that until they're on the outside looking in.
I actually start senior year tomorrow :) Thanks for the comment, it's always appreciated
`lacey
There are no beautiful surfaces without terrible depth...
That's a realization that many, many people (and I include adults) never come to in their entire lives. Why do plastic surgery and extreme diets exist? Because people somehow cannot be okay with themselves the way they are.
I relate to you because I also have "conflicting" interests. I have conflicting relationships too - I'm a theatre major and my boyfriend wants to earn a doctorate in physics! (We've been together for almost seventeen months).
Good job in pointing out how superficial people are, but also remembering that a lot of times they don't really mean to be - that's just the way humans are. Just remember the words of the Bard: "This above all: to thine own self be true."
for more: http://www.cs.rice.edu/~ssiyer/minstrels/poems/1204.html
lol my boyfriend and I are the same way- I want to do something in Biology and he wants to do something in a video gaming field. Congrats on almost a year and a half though :) That's amazing
Thanks for the quote, I haven't heard that one in ages, it's a really good one
`lacey
There are no beautiful surfaces without terrible depth...
I'm very similar to you. I dress and act in a way that would depict one sterotype about me, but have totally different interests. I tell everyone: I am self-proclaimed "closet-nerd"
I'm so glad you're ok with being who you are.
x: Sammy :)
Lol I'm a full blown-out-of the closet nerd :)
`lacey
There are no beautiful surfaces without terrible depth...
"I was guilty of doing this too. Then I stopped being a dumbass."
that made me laugh, because of how true it is for so many of us. i just wish more people would stop being dumbasses. as someone who's never quite fit into any one group, i found that in high school this was particularly alienating...
luckily, there was drama. drama, despite being its own sort of clique, was also the most welcoming group of people i'd ever been involved with. it didn't matter who you were during the school day--as soon as the final bell rang and you made your way to the auditorium, you were a drama kid, end of story. now if only people would realize that we're all human beings, then we'd really be making some progress. =)
--stacie
Good point :) I'm the same way you are about drama as I am about science club lol
`lacey
There are no beautiful surfaces without terrible depth...
hehe, yay! no matter what they're like, i think a basic human right is being able to find somewhere you belong, no matter how quirky you are. it's even in the constitution, right? live, libery, and the pursuit of happiness. =)
--stacie