People always say that children are shaped by their parents right? So what if I don't want to be shaped by them? What if I just want them to let me go? Yeah, so I rely on them for food and clothing and the whole roof over my head is really nice but is my payment for those things taking the things they say to me without saying anything. Should I be so scared of my own mother, (not because she physically abuses me or anything, but emotionally), that I say nothing as she continually yells at me and tells me that I'm the reason the entire house is mad or upset?
Lets backtrack a couple months to fall break. I was supposed to stay home and work while my parents and brother and niece went to the cabin for the few day break but I got into a wreck and totaled my car so I ended up having to go. It was horrible!!! For the first time in my entire life, (16 years and 11 months), I yelled back. I didn't silently take it. I told them the truth and they couldn't take it. Hell, I couldn't take it. They threatened to put me in a mental hospital...FOR FIGHTING THEM BACK. Who does that? Obviousely my mom and stepdad.
So here's my real question. If you could would you emancipate yourself from your parents and live your life free from their grasp? Would you possibly lower your standard of living and have to work a lot to get by just to get away? If you haven't already guessed I would. I would give up the $400,000+ income my family has just to get away from them. That's quite sad in my own opinion.
Parents: Are they really needed? And if so then why are they such asses
By randomness - Posted on February 11th, 2008
I can say that i also had arguments with my parents. I can also say that being a teenager was the most difficult period of my life..... expected to act like an adult, but not really ever given the respect of one.. Although i am older now, i still didn't like my teenage years and don't know anyone who did. In time you will be able to move out and make your own life. Just hang in there till then.
Studies actually prove that we can not really cope in a real-world society without a parent or another person there to guide us from the beginning. We would not understand language, customs and the concept of love. The wild child has shown that without parents we land up not being able to cope with anything.
To say that you could not live with your parents is ridiculous. They are your sole provider and will help you get through to the next stage in life if your lucky which you seem lucky to have a family with a disposible income. It is not like your parents are not giving everything you need money wise. Getting into a tift because you got into a fight with your parents is actually pointless and just proves that you cannot live by yourself
To be honest if your parents took you to a trip because you totaled your car, I'd think they would be doing the smart thing. For you to freak out over your parents making a good decision for you shows that you are to imature to face the real world. Not being able to take responsiblity for your actions just makes you look bad to your parents.
Right now you need your parents so you can gain some maturity and not act like toddler whining because they did not get their way. There are many children that are less fortunate then you.
CatSmit : )
Okay, let me put this simple for you. Early on in the post I said that I do realize that I need my parents for things. I won't deny it. But here is something else for you to think about before you call me a whining toddler. That fight happened in NOVEMBER! It had nothing to do with my car and to let you know something else I was going to work that break. Also, I paid off all of the car damages myself so don't start to make me out like a spoiled little brat. In July I had found out that my mother had lied to me my entire life and everything came out in November. I finally told my mom and stepdad the truth about how I felt and they threatened to send me away. That was the main point I was trying to get out. That even though my parents provide me with things I could probably live a much happier life and maybe even have a little sanity or self esteem.
"i am who i am, no excuses, but i would like people to know that there is a lot more to me than just that girl they pass in the hallway without a fleeting glance"
The way you come-off in your blog post makes you seem imature and the tone you put out with your post back just justifies it. It is as if you are trying to get people to feel sorry for you and back you up because people have made you feel badly about yourself during your life. News-flash in the real world no one cares how bad your life is and if you keep having that poor me attitude you will get no where
CatSmit : )
Oh I'm sorry is it so hard to believe that maybe I wanted to vent? I mean come on! I don't need or want anyone's pity and believe it or not I do live in this amazing and magical thing you call the real world.
i am who i am, no excuses, but i would like people to know that there is a lot more to me than just that girl they pass in the hallway without a fleeting glance
You my dear are not in the real world until you live on your own and do not rely on anything but yourself. That is the real world ask any of your teachers, see what they say back
CatSmit : )
Oh my god I'm ending this right now because you "my dear" are really starting to get on my nerves. You have your opinion and I have mine. I'm sorry if you think that just because I do live with my parents doesn't mean I A: don't live in the real world and B: don't have a reason to complain or say something about it.
-Hannah
i am who i am, no excuses, but i would like people to know that there is a lot more to me than just that girl they pass in the hallway without a fleeting glance
Parents are utterly necessary! And I will tell you why, because I hate mine for various reasons depending on the day.
1) Without parents, we would fail to understand manipulation and how it can be used in our favor. Friends don't tend to manipulate you, and when they do, you don't notice. Or you don't care. So you overlook it. Parents are notorious for manipulation, thus it is possible for us to study them and learn how to better manipulate others.
2) Without parents, I imagine I would kill several thousand people. Without my parents, I would have been hugged far less, leading to a damaged psyche. While it can always be argued that I am completely deranged, I'm only mildly psychotic. This allows me to ignore the voices in my head that say, "It'd be easier to just kill them and eat the babies."
3) Without parents, we wouldn't be able to formulate an opinion of ourselves based on the opposite of our parents. For example, my dad resorts to (a)raising his voice, (b)raising a threat, and finally (c)proving he wasn't bluffing. Now, I am WAY to laid back and I find it far easier to just shout, "Knock it the fuck off" when someone/thing is bothering me. I do this because I don't want to be anything like the man.
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Reading that makes me think you grew up without parents.
Just kidding... I love you...
you deranged psycho.
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People have and do do what you said.
It is an option.
But don't rashly run away from your house, think of it this way. You get lots of money (in house, food, etc.) and all you have to put up with is some yelling. You'd get that at work from your boss either way. EVERYONE fights with their parents. Everyone. Seriously. But everyone (sans some D&D players) moves out eventually, and gets a life of your own. And honestly, if your parents make that much money, you don't want to give up their connections. They can probably get you a good job in the future.
All in all, no matter what you do in life the "boss" is always going to be a jackass. The difference between adults and kids is adults learn to live with it, or try to "be their own boss" (the modern day American dream huh?). Try and be mature, and not matter how bad things are, save illegal beatings or the like, things will get better eventually. Go to college, you don't have to do anything they say then. Except maybe make good grades.
You're right but no worries I wasn't going to try and run away.
i am who i am, no excuses, but i would like people to know that there is a lot more to me than just that girl they pass in the hallway without a fleeting glance
Some might argue that considering emancipation is considering running away.
And if you took this argument to court to try to get your emancipation, they'd send you right back home with your mommy and daddy.
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What's the worst that could happen, apart from all of us being flattened or fried or whatever bombs do? [Rudy Steiner from The Book Thief]
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