I would like to apologize in advance to anyone which this opinion of mine will offend. With that said, I just want to know why women sell their bodies? I was browsing through the yahoo profiles and I noticed so many girls who, for their profile picture, are wearing lingerie or look like they aren't wearing anything at all. My question is why? Is there something that you are trying to compensate for mentally? If it's compliments or attention you want, we all feel that way. I'll be honest and say that when people tell me that they think I am pretty, I am flattered. The magazines and TV tell us we have to look a certain way (hungry, LOL), and when someone thinks that you fit that, it makes you feel good. But what makes me feel better is when someone tells me that I am a devoted wife, a loving daughter, a person with a big heart, a God fearing Christian, compassionate, an honest hardworking woman, driven, or intelligent. Those are the things that count. Physical beauty does not last, but who you are deep down, and what lies in your soul is eternal. This past weekend I attended an NFL game (Falcons, 34, Saints, 31, GREAT game, Go Falcons!) which is supposed to be a family event. OK, I can kinda see that. But if that is true, then why in the heck are the cheerleaders dressed like strippers!?!? If I had kids I would not want them to see that. If I wanted to watch that, then I'd have gone to a Hooters or a strip club, which are some other things that I detest. And then after the cheerleaders did their little dance (which wasn't so bad), the announcer tells us that we can buy their swimsuit calender at one of the shops. I couldn't believe it. But the NFL knows that sex sells. But the only reason that it does, is because women allow themselves to be a part of that. And yes, Britney Spears is slutty for all you parents who don't know, just like a lot of the other pop princesses. When she came into the industry, she was singing God's praises, but within just a few years she was dancing on stage dressed in lingerie, humping her dancers- giving sex shows- where her largest audience are girls under the age of 14. What a shame!!! Women who follow that pattern are Beyonce and Jessica Simpson. Once they feel that money in their hands, the clothes just come right off, thrown on the floor, along with their morals. Women always complain about unequal wages between men and women and the discrimination in the work place. Well, I wonder why. Women are not taken serioiusly, and in order for that to happen, we can't be selling our bodies. If we don't respect ourselves, surely no one else will either. Do you honestly think that the woman who gives lap dances for a living will ever have the chance to be elected president? Please! Women who fall into the hands of society in this way give upstanding women a bad name. Because of those who participate in such evil, the rest of us are labeled "sex toys" as well and get to hear what all the perverts are thinking as we shop in the mall. As soon as women decide that they will control their own bodies, and not a man or a dollar bill, only then can we start making a name for women not only in the U.S., but for oppressed women all over the world. Once women decide to respect themselves and find self worth, there will be less corruption of the mind and soul from pornography, we can more capably be seen as equals, and then women can rise up in a man's world. So I encourage you to take a look in the mirror. Decide what you are saying about yourself by simply what you are wearing. Have the courage and intelligence to show that you respect yourself, and that you are a confident woman who doesn't need to show any skin to make a friend, or a dollar for that matter. So, with that said, go put some clothes on!
(copied from Darcy's blog from Yahoo 360 and Darcy's myspace)
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Why does it bother you so much what another woman has or does not have on? What effect does that have on your life? I disagree with many of the things that you discuss in your blog. I don't believe that I am treated any differently by the male sex because a Dallas Cowboys cheerleader is showing a bit of cleavage. There is a decent way to treat people regardless of the way they are dressed and there are just some men out there who are going to cat call and harass women no matter if they are wearing a string bikini or a snow suit, simply because they are female.
I am currently a professional working woman who is respected within the company, but I spent seven years of my life as an exotic dancer. Inside of the club, I knew what to expect. I know why guys go to strip clubs. I no longer work at a strip club, but I experience the same amount of sexual harassment that I did back then. And this is occuring outside of the club and work place. I dress very modestly, I don't like to show skin, though I do not have a problem with it if one looks good enough to do so. I have a nice body, and even in jeans and long sleeved sweaters I am getting harassed or complimented. I don't think that women who 'participate in such evils' such as stripping make it that much harder for all other women. What makes it hard for women is the fact that we have been repressed and dominated for so very long. This is not something that will be overcome in such a short period of time.
I have no problem with women who want to show off their bodies, as long as they look good. I work out hard, six days a week, and I am glad that I have the right to dress how I want to. If I want to show off my body, I can. It is up to me, as an adult, to decide how I dress. I am also aware that how I dress will affect how some people perceive me, but as an adult, that is my choice. I don't think that anyone else should have the right to say what someone else has on is wrong, just because it doesn't fit their idea of what is good and decent and proper. My clothes do not make me the person that I am. There are plenty of women out there who dress in skimpy skirts and barely there tops who are good people, just as there are plenty of women out there who dress in ankle length skirts and long sweaters who are bad or slutty people. I think it is very wrong to make character judgments based on what someone does or does not have on.
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I completely understand your point of view and agree with it. This world is corrupt. In this day and age sex sells. We need to portray sexy with our bodies instead of our minds. Its a sad revelation, but it's what we have to do.
You answered it in your post. Sex sells. And that's what young girls see constantly. It's the same as with the entire weight thing. Young girls want to be super skinny because that's what all of the rich and famous women look like.
To say these women lack morals because they dress a certain way, however, is wrong. As the previous poster pointed out, there are far too many "slutty" women out there that cover themselves up.
It's a womans right to dress however she is comfortable, just as a man can dress how he is comfortable (i.e. pants that leave half of his ass hanging out).
Instead of railing against that right, women need to be telling these girls that they don't have to run around half dressed in order to make it and that they shouldn't feel as if they HAVE to dress that way in order to be taken seriously.
"We don't receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves after a journey that no one can take for us or spare us." -Marcel Proust
I think it's important for women to know that they can be whatever THEY want to be and not feel as if they need to follow either the traditional stereotypes of women OR even the farthest extreme of that. To me, a woman shouldn't have to go through life thinking, "ok I can do this cause I'm not being a submissive housewife" or "ok I can't do this because i'm not acting as a submissive housewife should". They're so many opportunities out there for women and none of us should be the author of anyone else's life.
I fear no man(Nazgul)...i'm no man(Eowyn) -LoTR
A lot of very intelligent women work as strippers/dancers to put themselves through college. They make a LOT more money than we who are waitresses, etc. If they're okay with their body and that's the way they choose to make money to further their education, I think that's great! Who's to say that one of them couldn't be the next president?
i agree - if sex sells, why not take advantage of it to further their futures and themselves so that, twenty years down the line, they won't still have to be at the pole?
is that we are looked at as being one collective representation of womanhood. While that may not matter to any of us individually, or at least we try not to let those stereotypes bother us, the fact of the matter is that, because of the way women are perceived in the media/society, other people, even other women, develop attitudes about what a real "woman" should be/act. That said, women, based on these preconcevied notions can be denied certain rights or derided because of individual choices.
A good example is that a lot of people, mainly men, in the film industry, will not hire a female director for say,a horror movie, because it's said that a woman cannot make a movie in the horror genre as good as a man can.
It's because of the way these women present themselves that we ALL suffer.
I would like to say, however, that it's important to see some of positive aspects of women showing themselves in that negative light. I sometime get inspiration from things like that because it shows women that there are other things out there for them to be. Not the kind of inspiration that would make these women my role models, though.
I fear no man(Nazgul)...i'm no man(Eowyn) -LoTR
Good points.
At this very moment, somewhere a committee is deciding your life, only you weren't invited
It doesnt matter. I just believe "Ms.Leelee" had a random question and decided to post this blog to see people's beliefs.
I have no comment.
"the physical beauty does not last, it matter's what's deep down inside" statement, I don't necessarily believe that. It's important to balance both beauty on the outside/inside but, in the end, I believe that young women definitely need to have a positive body image as well as/sometimes much more than cherishing what's on the inside. I'm not against women getting plastic surgey and such, except the ones who do it because of society norms (obviously that's a greater majority than those who don't). You need to be a beauty queen, though. But I don't believe in the wishy washy (Christian) idea in our society that you can never change yourself cause it's "sinful".
I fear no man(Nazgul)...i'm no man(Eowyn) -LoTR
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I fear no man(Nazgul)...i'm no man(Eowyn) -LoTR
I don't see the problem with adult women making decisions on what they want to wear. But I do have a problem with teenage girls feeling that they must wear outfits that show everything in order to feel pretty. That shows the lack of self-esteem that young women have from the social pressures to dress like those exulted in the media.