A lost relationship

stimpy424's picture

Before I lived in Florida, I use to live in California near most of my family. I hardly ever saw them except on holidays and any random event. I mean quite a few families lived within 30 miles of me. But my grandpa who was a Los Angeles Lakers Assistant Coach back in the 70's all ways wondered why we never came to the basketball games he was coaching at. Well the reason was simple. Ive played sports since I was 5yrs old. Tee-ball was where I started, then I worked my way up to little league baseball, then some football, soccer and then finally went back to baseball for a few years. Guess how many games he went to of mine? Zero not one, but somehow my grandma went to a few but why couldnt he go? Well my parents ended up putting my sister and myself in basketball camps that he taught mainly because my grandpa was ticked at my parents for "depriving" him of seeing us. We ended up quiting every year because he basically ditched us during the camps and we'd get bored. Well as the years went on I ended up doing a few church plays and he ended up going to one somehow (I think my grandma threatend him to go. I love my Grandma) but one time was not enough. I guess im numb towards my grandpa, I mean I oray for his salvation now and then but I dont know how to feel towards him. I love him but I dont know him. But somehow my other grandpa who lives an hour away from me now and who has had a total knee replacement and has several serious diseases such as diabettes and is much older than the other one has seen more games and been over to visit me uncountless times. My grandpa who coaches has been over to China teaching their olympic team and a college team more than he has ever even seen me. He spends like 4 months over there or so a year but he wont fly across the country to see me. My grandma has flown over twice but he wont come. I dont know how to feel towards him anymore.

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Beautifullyrescued's picture

sounds like a familiar family situation with me... you love him but you dont know him.. i pretty much know what thats like..

Its hard to know how to feel. But he is your family so part of you will always feel something toward him. Its really a shame that hes depriving himself of wonderful family experiences. Ultimately it is a major loss to him.

~ Be so strong that nothing can disturb your piece of mind~

stimpy424's picture

Thanks I never really thought of it that way.

Perhaps you should consider why. Is there more to it than just him being lazy?

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