To Push somebody over the edge is a terrible thing...
My best elementary school friend was only 7 years old when his brother committed suicide, and he was the one to find him that dreadfull morning. Only four years after the incident occured, was he able to share with me what happened that day.
The day before, he said that his brother had come home truly upset. He had been broken up with his girlfriend of nearly 2 1/2 years without and explination, and she said she didnt want to talk to him ever again.. without any reason at all that they knew of. She just got tired of him I guess...
If that werent enough, he got in a terrible fight with his parents once he was back from school, for not doing a chore that he was suppost to have done earlier that day. Joseph, trying to be a good brother, decided he wanted to help (but anybody with younger siblings knows that when your really upset, the last thing you want is for your baby brother or sister to come in asking a whole bunch of questions in order to "help".)
He dismissed himself from the dinner table early and headed off to his room. (this type of stuff happens all the time, we all get tired and want to go to bed early right?)
The next morning, my friend joseph was asleep in bed and around 6:45 in the morning he heard a loud boom come from the room across from his.
He opened the door to find his brothers remains all over the floor....he had taken a shotgun to the face and killed himself.
Imagine... being 7 years old and having to deal with a loss of your big brother, that you admired so much, and remembering the scaring sight of that terrible morning whenever you think of him?
After that day.. Joseph was never the same. In the sixth grade we had to stop him from committing suicide numerous amounts of times..... I guess the whole deal never really truly hit him until the time where his brother wouldve been the one giving him advice about junior high and how to get the right girl and all that. That was one of the years that I will never forget.... I remember being there with him when the class that his brother would've graduated with were having their graduation ceremony. I held his hand through it all, and he was so strong that day. They set aside a portion of that ceremony for his brother, and all of those graduates treated him like they would their own sibling.
So Joseph.. wherever you are... if your still out there...I know we've lost touch and i'm sorry... but I'm still here for you.. no matter how far.. I'm here.. and I haven't forgotten about all that we've gone through together... You still have those elementary school friends that were with you at one of the hardest times in your life... we're all still here.. We love you.
Whoa. I myself struggle with suicidal ideas sometimes, but I'm an adult. The idea of young kids wanting to kill themselves always makes me sad. It's horrible that some kids honestly get to feeling like there's no hope. I remember my last year of elementary school I faced a lot of rejection from other kids; it was really one of the hardest years of my life.
I hope your friend is finding peace. <3
Donna
It is sad how suicides affect the people that are touched by their gruesome clutches. Obviously, it is far worse to find one than to hear of one.
Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem and there are many health professionals available to aid anyone that feels that desperate. I understand the need not to talk about it as well, but sometimes the problem is far deeper than a friend can examine.
http://www.progressiveu.org/090204-dont-miss-this-chance
How exactly do you "find" a suicide?
by finding someone who just commited suicide, rather than just hearing about it.
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Oh, yeah. THat is even worse especially for a little kid to see that. NO wonder he wanted to commit suicide himself-psychologically disturbed.
thanks.. me 2.
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IS his brother okay now?
So Joseph.. wherever you are... if your still out there...
I hope that he is still alive, that he hasn't committed suicide yet, that he still remembers you
That is so sad. I can't imagine having to suffer through that especially at the age of seven.
That's so horrible! Suicide is so selfish.
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Yeah...its sad that he didn't even think that by ending his own pain he would be causing pain to his family.
When you are on the other side of the fence, its not.
Suicide is selfish?!?!?! Clearly you have never had to deal with that, or else you would understand the amount of pain that person must have been in to go to such extreme lengths to end their suffering. That statement is so ignorant.
Hug a musician, they never get to dance.
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Well you must admit. IT was stupid of that kid to kill himself just cuz he didn't do a chore and his girlfriend left him. He had low self esteem and no family support. It was no big deal! If he lived, his life would have turned out okay.
One of my friends committed suicide, and so did my uncle who was like a big brother to me... I don't hold grudges against them... I am not mad at them. However, they are truly missed. Yes it might be a tough spot, for you to go to a dark time like that... Feeding into your own pain to the point to take your own life. However it is selfish and cowardly to take your own life. You can always live to fight another day. Seriously, if you think you're gonna go down, go down swinging. Don't purposely count yourself out... It is one thing that is so irreversible.
---Mike Schilling---
http://www.progressiveu.org/090204-dont-miss-this-chance
I agree. They say that suicide is a permanent decision to a temporary problem. But you also must understand, for those of you who have seen Mel Gibson's The PAtriot, there was a man who committed suicide after he came back from so many battles and a cruel English general killed every one of his kids, hung others, killed his wife and the poor man couldn't take it. He killed himself because he wanted to be with them. HE was in anguish. There is only so much that a human being can bear. When the load becomes unbearable, to them there is only one way out. So I can understand. Maybe its selfish to say that people who commit suicide are selfish. We want them for ourselves, we want them to be with us despite the unbearable pain.
Wow Amy I didnt know about this thats quite intense.
wow. i agree, extremely intense.
and truely nice to have had a portion of the graduation dedicated to him.
also its very admirable that you could deal with that.
That was INTENSE.