My Response - Most Offensive Email ever

So, in a series of 3 blogs, I have previously posted what is collectively the most offensive email that I have ever received. The message was sent to me after I came out. Here is the reply that I sent in return. THIS is what I have to say. These ARE my own words.

"OK, well to start off, I'd like to say that your series of messages was probably the most offensive series of comments that I have heard since coming out. 

I choose to tackle the message piece by piece, so I will state the topic and then post a response

-void in my life

Not really. I tried religion, and it didn't really work out well. I don't dislike Christians in general. Some of my best friends are Christians. I just differ from them in the belief or lack there of, of a higher power. And thankfully, for the sake of friendship, they were able to get over that.

-promiscuity

I would agree with you the 20% of gay men are very promiscuous, but I must point out that it really is no different then straight men. As far as the "statistic" that less then 1% are monogamous, I think even you probably realize how ridiculous that "statistic" is. I would definitely be interested to see any credible, moderate group that reported this "statistic," because frankly, I think this is a made up piece of information. Also, if you can name even one gay person who you know personally who will say "that they are not happy and know that their lifestyle isn't right" I would be shocked. You might find a gay person who is unhappy, but again, is that really any different then straights?

-others and homosexuality

Your notion that every person feels uncomfortable around gay people is completely ridiculous and baseless. In fact, according the typically loved-by-republicans FOX News, only 39% of Americans favor no legal recognition of Same-Sex Couples.  Maybe your friends are petrified of gays, but I think that the majority of Americans are realistic to know that we are a pretty harmless group.

-Natural

You say that homosexuality is unnatural because it does not produce life. First, I'll contend based off of your idea of natural. Technically, no lives are produced going while going to school, thus going to school must be considered unnatural. Obviously, this reasoning is not valid. So, to consult a neutral party in the definition, we will look at the dictionary definition.  Natural is "existing in or formed by nature" with nature meaning "the material world" If you base of this definition, it can be argued that since homosexuality is observed in other species, other then human, that classifies homosexuality as "existing in the material world," thus being natural. Also, If bleeding during sex, qualifies the specific type of sex act as unnatural, then a girl loosing her virginity would be unnatural. It is merely a common misconception that bleeding frequently occurs during anal sex. I have a lot of gay friends, and none of them have ever had visible blood from sex.

-feminine traits

It is true that almost always one partner will be more feminine then the other. However, it is also true that almost always one heterosexual male is more or less feminine then another. There are differences between gay people, just as there are differences in straight people. You, no offense, are relatively metrosexual. This doesn't indicate you trying to maintain a "facade." You are just acting like yourself - as are gay people.

-gay stereotypes

Oh, your stereotypes are again quite ridiculous. These may have been true 30 years ago, when the oppression was much more severe, but they are not true today. In fact today's gays are on average smarter and wealthier then the average straight couple. In fact, Ritch C. Savin-Williams, a professor at Cornell University recently released a book about the psychological health of gay teens. In the book he discusses how the average gay teen is just as, if not more mentally stable then the average straight teen.

-religion

I'm not really concerned about your religious views on homosexuality, because we do not share religious views. But if your religion condemns a use of sperm for anything other then procreation, every wet dream that you have is a sin. I also am offended by you presuming that every gay man has AIDS, that I would ever be in a situation where I would get AIDS, and that if I had AIDS, I would knowingly pass it on to a partner. Once again, your presumptions are prejudicial and offensive.

-Love

Personally, I disagree with your definition of love. You say that love is the giving of yourself even when you don't want to. I say that love is the giving of yourself when you want to. Wanting to sleep with someone, but choosing not to for the sake of a spouse is not love. Love is not wanting to sleep with someone because you respect your spouse.

-moving forward

Merely procreating isn't propelling the human race forward. I was adopted. Were my parents not propelling things forward. Your parents probably won't have any more children. Are they no longer propelling the human race forward. A catholic priest will never have any kids. Are they no longer propelling the human race forward. There is so much more to life then having kids. I want to adopt kids, but if the only thing I accomplish in life is adopting kids, then I won't accomplish a whole lot.

-self-centered

I don't know if I have ever heard anyone say that fighting for equal rights is self centered. Were black people self centered when fighting for equal rights? No! The notion is kind of sickening.

-societies

No society has ever fallen because of homosexuality.

-god≠perfect

The bible is not perfect. The earth is not geocentric, the sky is not covered in glass, etc. The list can go on, but you can find lists of biblical contradictions on the internet if you insist that the bible is word-for-word accurate.

-change

I can't change. I wouldn't want to change. I just want the ignorant assholes in our world to change, and polls would suggest that they are coming around. I feel at peace already. Your not going to be able to 'suade me out of feeling at peace.

I would never write you off because of your religion. I will however write you off because your message was essentially a collection of the most offensive and inaccurate views on homosexuality that I have ever heard. Just as you will never give up on me, I will never give up the idea that you may one day learn to think for yourself, and become someone who is comfortable enough with your own sexuality that you do not need to attempt to belittle other people's. I know that this is probably a very offensive paragraph, however I feel that I am allotted at least one offensive paragraph, since you had a plethora of them.

You can message me again, but based on the assumption that they are similar to the last series of messages, I probably won't respond, because I find discussion with someone as close-minded as you (no offense) to be rather futile."

Ahh, I really enjoyed that message. Hopefully - a bit more logical. Definitely much less offensive. 

For a brief epilogue, the author of the original messages waited a couple weeks, then tried to start small talk. I replied in one word answers, and after 2 messages, he took the hint and stopped messaging me.

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