For many years, love and lust have been a center of debate and critics constantly debating the difference between the two. Of course, I cannot make a definitive answer to these two ideals but, I will try to give my best interpretation.
Love is boundless and a strong sense of affection and compassion for others. It is something that you give to people in return for the love that they share with you that can be received through bonds of family and friendship.
While, lust is a strong desire to obtain something from someone or something. It is where a person does something to gain something from it for their own benefit without any concern of others.
But, can lust ever be considered to be a good thing? In comparison to love, lust is the foundation of a root of evil because love is when you can overcome all obstacles and still love the other person despite their flaws, but lately in society, the media loves to portray how easily people can fall in and out of love and in today's society, people easily mistake love for lust.
Where people may tell each other, "I love you" each day, but are they quite sincere about their love or are they really saying, "I just like how intelligent, nice, and pretty you are and that I want to be like you," and by saying "I love you" become too much of a cliche that it is taken lightly by society today?
Lust could be interpreted as just a meager eagerness or enthusiasm for something that bares no relation to seeking any selfish benefit from that something that that person is easily excited about. Though, rarely can we say that lust can be just as a good thing as love because love is a healer and lust is the thing that destroys those things that we all hold close and dear to our hearts or so we are told?
So, which is better lust or love?
I disagree with your definition of lust. Lust is basically a sexual desire/urge that wants to be filled. I don't think it is something distructive, quite the opposite. I think lust is a natural part of humans (and animals) and should be treated as a legitimate need. Either way, lust and love are just chemical reactions that go on in your body.
I think both are good in depending on the situation. I personally love love. But each has a different feeling associated with it. ---M
I agree with 1060601, lust is more of a biological/sexual thing when it comes to another person, but you can also lust for money and power. Aside from that, though; Lust can be a good thing in certain contexts. I think that lust and love combined are important in having a sucessful, loving relationship. It's not the most important thing to a relationship, but most couples would agree with me; without it, a part of the relationship would be empty and it just wouldn't be the same without it. As my girlfriend tells me, "It's just the icing on the cake. And I love the cake the most." It creates a bond and a level of intamacy between the two people. That intamacy not only requires a level of trust, but it also builds trust.
On the topic of love, I agree with the idea that the phrase 'I love you' is thrown around way too much. I'll admit, I've done it myself. I have mistaken simple lust or caring for full-blown love. They all make up each other, but they're not the same. I think that people need to be more careful and choose their words wisely. The word love needs to be more carefully considered; falsely telling someone you love them can do a lot of damage.
Which came first, the chicken or the egg?
Which came first, lust or love?
Lust is an important of our biological/social reactions to someone else. I agree with you that quite often lust on its own is mistaken for love, but I think that lust is actually a part of love. Could you imagine falling in love with someone for whom you had no physical attraction?
I think that people often develop lust for the other person in the beginning of a relationship and then if the two people are committed to trying to make the relationship work then those two people may begin to develop a sense of love for that other person.
But, I think that society too often forces young people into serious relationships during their secondary education and they commonly mistaken lust for love and then that's where they develop some problems of distinguishing love from lust.