It's everywhere; magazines praising curvy women and those women blatantly mocking thin women. It's in overheard conversations, the arrogance of fat people who "live to the fullest" as they say (meaning they eat crap all the time and don't care that they're sacrificing their bodies). It's on car insurance commercials, "That skinny little BLEEEP!" As if being skinny is equivalent to being a bitch. Friends roll their eyes at men or boys who prefer a smaller woman, as if all men's preference should be for curves.
A friend of mine, when hearing that a certain guy preferred skinny women, scoffed and said "Ewe."
As if a thin girl's body is disgusting.
Yes, I completely agree it's good to have curves! Women should to be healthy, and frankly, belly dancers (I think) have the most beautiful bodies.
But it is never right to stick up your nose at naturally petite women and girls, or a woman who wants to be thin. There's such a backlash against the media projecting itsy-bitsy models and actresses that now if you are skinny, you're giving in to peer-pressure, you're insecure, you think you're perfect. The media has gone so far trying to reestablish girls' self-esteem that its having the opposite effect.
What about the peer-pressure to be curvy? What about those girls who are naturally thin, who look in the mirror and wish they had hips and breasts and the hourglass figure so sought after. What about them?
I'm so sick of the self-righteousness of over-weight people. As if their lives are so much "fuller" than thinner people's because they treat their bodies like dirt. Nobody should sacrifice health for looks, whether they want to be a belly-dancer-shape or a bean pole. It isn't right for thin women to mock large women, but nobody says a thing if a fat girl mocks a skinny one.
The food one eats has little to do with how well they're enjoying and living their life. Vegetarians aren't missing out on any fun, lactose-intolerants aren't either, and McDonalds doesn't qualify your life as one well-lived. Food shouldn't equal a life well-lived, and I'm fed up (pun not intended) with larger girls and woman (and men) playing it off as if it is.
Its the opposite; When food is simply used to fuel your amazing body, you can live for yourself and your dreams. You'd think that if you loved yourself you would feed your body foods that will keep it functioning.
I can't be the only one out there who's sick of this arrogance! I'm in no way against curvy women, I think that's great, I'm only against the self-righteous attitudes so many of themb express and the disdain they hold thinner people in. I'm not against dessert, good food, parties, whatever.
Just drop the attitude!
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I think its a tricky balance. The main goal should be to be comfortable with your own body. So many people look at the sizes and shapes of those around them that they forget to love their own shapes whether they be thin, heavy, medium, short, tall, medium, curvy, flat, athletic, or whatever! If people just focused on feeling good about themselves and the things that they do with their lives instead of how they look then this world could be a much better place.
That's what it really boils down to.
Fat people get made fun of all the time, so maybe the anti-skinny backlash is just a way of turning the tables. In fact, fat and gay are the last acceptable groups to bash. No one should be making fun of fat people, no one should be making fun of skinny people. No one should be making fun of anyone.
Everyone should be looking for balance in their lives.
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/ediblewoman
I second that. I dream of the day when people simply accept others for the way they are...
Of course, when it comes to the issues of obesity or being thin, health is a main concern. I don't care how fat or skinny someone is, as long as they're healthy. And, if they're not healthy, perhaps I'm tempted to offer advice (depending on my relationship with that person), but I would never support them being made fun of or ostracized.
Thanks for the comments, you guys. I agree with each of you.
"Happiness only real when shared".
Curvy does NOT equal fat. And I completely object to your characterization of such. I am a curvy girl... I have hips and breasts and a smaller waist in between. I am not overweight. Wearing a size 12 does not make me fat.
What YOU see as arrogance may just be a woman who is FINALLY comfortable with her body. 4 years ago, if you had asked me if I was pretty in any way, I would have flat out told you no... I hated everything about my body. And it's because people like you called me fat, or pregnant or something else hateful because I WASN'T one of those natural skinny girls. Now I can finally look at myself in the mirror and appreciate my curves, and walk around with my head held high, instead of looking down in shame.
That all being said, I see absolutely nothing wrong with thin girls. When they become skinny, though, to the point where I can see their bones, and they just don't look healthy, I'm not going to appreciate how they look, and I'm going to favor my own body over theirs.
~C
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