We all know that there is a double standard. You can see it everywhere in society. Some people are trying to correct it, like how women are, slowly (very slowly) starting to be called promiscuous instead of sluts. Is it really right to try to correct the standard by not persecuting women who are becoming more promiscuous or should it be corrected by trying to have men value their virginity more. After all, girls are taught to value their virginity "hold on tight to your innocence because once its gone you can never get it back". But why aren't more boys taught this. They are encouraged by all of society to get rid of their virginity as soon as possible. Why? More women are expected to stay virgins until their wedding day but men, "they just can't control themselves". I don't think that's true. I know guys who are choosing to wait until marriage. But for these guys, its an uphill battle. Not because they can't control themselves, but because it's uncool. They get made fun of for their choice. In societies' eyes it's not something that they should try to do.
I guess my main point is: don't make fun of the guys who do decide to wait or the girls who are more promiscuous. Although I don't necessarily agree with the latter, it is helping to break this stupid double standard that runs our societies lives.
Will Men Virgins Ever Become Cool?
By sweet_fog - Posted on November 1st, 2006
Tagged: Society
• Better future
I'm holding out until virginity, and yeah it's hard sometimes...but I know on my wedding night I will feel good. But when I tell others that act as if I have some type of disease. The most ignorant remark I get is, "What? ARE YOU GAY?!?" So, according to those ignorant few...if you don't have sex before marriage, then you're gay. Society is real stupid sometimes.
Micah B.
I agree with you. People should not say guys cannot control themselves and then expect women to wait until marriage. There should only be one standard. Both sexes should have the right to be "promiscuous" or both sexes should be taught to wait until marriage. No double standards. In school, if a girl slept with one guy, she was a slut. If a guy slept with anything less, he was a loser. It seemed to me guys would keep tallies of the number of females they slept with and it was a good thing. Girls were shunned for it. Everyone should be treated the same, no matter sex.
There alway has been and always will be a double standard between men and women,no matter what the topic. I took a vow of chastity and I tell all the guys I date upfront so that they do not think they will get in my pants. Usually, after one date, they are done.... that just tells me that they were not interested in learning more about me but that they are looking for a good time.
Waiting until marriage is fine ,but the thing is....most people don't think that nowdays. I do not look at people any less who have pre-marital sex. Sex is fine and healthy for people to have, yes, even pre-marital....under a few conditions. Number 1 and MOST importantly: It's meaningful... too many people engage in the activity because others are, peer pressured, or they don't think its that big of a deal...which it is. If they're safe about it..then we wont be continuing our rise in aborting the future's children, hel, if you don't want the kid...adoption. ON the flip side I do not agree with people who are promiscuous and will just have a ton of one night stands to make them seem more desirable...it'll get to a point where they won't be anymore.
I think men should be applauded more for being virginial or not getting as much "action" as they are applauded for now. If society starts to change by making women more acceptable for sleeping around or being promiscious then how bad is society going to get? the rate of STDs and unplanned pregnancys will rise dramatically. and who knows what else. But if guys are given more respect for changing their ways for the better- it will ulitmately make the generations cleaner and purer and whatever else you think. Plus, personally, I think its sexy when guys are virgins so I'm all for them holding off as long as they have the maturity and masculinity to pull it off
I think it's amazing when guys are virgins. I've only met one though. Then again, I live in a big party city (Miami, FL), and the fact that I'm a virgin (I'm a girl) baffles people. They usually just think I'm lying. I also have a hard time finding someone I want to have a relationship with because most guys my age have had sex with quite a few different girls, and I just think it should be special. Sometimes I think I'm the only one, but it's nice to know that there are a few others out there.
To clarify though, I may or may not have sex before I get married, I'm just a virgin because of how I feel, not because of some sort of moral standard that has been pushed on me.
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