Where are our children going to?

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In the past, there was this general belief among parents both in developing countries and the developed countries that, respect for God, respect for self and respect for parents were the most important aspects of life. Many parents knew that at a certain age, thier daughters would be bethrothed to men who were respected in the society and had good morals as well as had a good reputation. They raised their children based on these facts that good reputation and good morals would give them better husbands/wives and make them gain respect from the society. You would hardly find a girl pregnant at a tender age because it was considered a taboo and a disgrace to the family. Many generations have passed and alot has changed since then.
Today, when a woman gets pregnant, she wonders what her child will be. When she goes to the hospital with her husband and the ultra sound says it will be a girl, the woman although filled with joy, she wonders how that child will be raised in this our present society. At about age 10, a girl is already seen running around with boys and hugging and kissing in public. It goes to the extent where when one drives down the street, you see very young girls dressed almost nude, hugging boys and sometimes men old enough to be thier father with no shame. One would wonder; " Do her parents know where she is and what she is doing?" Young girls and boys now have the courage to talk carelessly to their parents and parents do not do anything because they are scared the child will call 911. What they forget is, it is their duty to correct and raise these children in a correct manner. At times, I ask myself, who is right and who is wrong and there seems to be blame on both sides as well as the law. Children are being taught in schools how to dial 911 and report thier parents when they scold at them . Parents forget it is their responsibility to bring up these children to be God-fearing and respectful, not only to the parents but to themselves and to the society. Some children from poor homes will say, poverty sent them to the streets while some boys end up being thieves even if their parents do well to give them money.
Society has spoiled our children because girls try to follow what they call "fashion" , as such, they go out to look for money to buy what they think they need. The boys end up joining gangs where they do drugs, kill, steal and in the end, they get locked up behind bars. Some of these children end up getting Sexually Transmitted Diseases, HIV and AIDS. Some end up dying and making the family miserable.
What is the law doing to protect and guide these children? Where are we going if we can't correct our children when they are wrong? I wonder if the world is coming to an end with all the ails and problems in our present times? Where do we start to correct this?

Poison_Ivy's picture
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It would be SO difficult to raise a girl in this day and age. Our society accepts young girls wearing slutty clothes and engaging in sex. With boys you only have to worry about one penis, with girls, you have to worry about every other penis out there.

I don't think I support your point up there. Don't you think if a child does something, the parents need to discipline that child to the end? There needs to be a law against men who go around with little girls and there should be a law that will make a girl not try to engage in premarital sex. I think if all forces that help in a child's upbringing: i.e, the society, the parents and schools come together to fight this promiscuity etc, it will bring about some control in prostitution. Why will a parent even worry about their girl child if they raised her with solid hands and to be God-fearing? Some parents themselves do not even care. God has given us these children as a responsibility on earth. If we fail to raise these children well, we are failing God. That is what we should be educating the parents as well as the children.

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All you have to do is teach your daughter (or son for that matter) responsibility and values. Then you should be able to trust them to make good decisions. That way it won't matter what other people do or say.

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People, are we serious? You bring children into othe world to trust them to make good decisions? I don't agree to that. I believe parents should guide these children even when they insist they should take their own decisions to make good decisions. Parents will always be parents no matter how old we become. Laws in some countries like the US say when a child reaches 18 or say 21, he/she is free to go be on their own. That to me should not be the case. AT 18, that boy or girl is still trying to see what life has to offer; if we let them go at that age with no guidance because we think they are grown up, how many of them, end up doing the right thing and how many make the right choices? In my opinion, parents have to take care of their children till they are 24 +. In that case, they will know they have assisted them into real life.

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I think the parenting style you describe either results in a kid who hates the parents for being too controlling or a kid who is so co-dependent that they can never make their own decisions.

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son_of_disaster's picture
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I agree. My parents use that style on me, and I hate it because of how much they want to control things. Luckily since I hit 18, they've started to back off, booyah!

I would commit suicide if my parents guided me until i was 24. That is such an outrageous idea. I understand what the blogger is saying, but it takes good parenting skills, not controlling ones. What the blogger is suggesting is in my opinion bad parenting because they will never let their children fail in life, and that in turn will harm them much more than the blogger cares to think.

People, are we serious? You bring children into othe world to trust them to make good decisions? I don't agree to that. I believe parents should guide these children even when they insist they should take their own decisions to make good decisions. Parents will always be parents no matter how old we become. Laws in some countries like the US say when a child reaches 18 or say 21, he/she is free to go be on their own. That to me should not be the case. AT 18, that boy or girl is still trying to see what life has to offer; if we let them go at that age with no guidance because we think they are grown up, how many of them, end up doing the right thing and how many make the right choices? In my opinion, parents have to take care of their children till they are 24 +. In that case, they will know they have assisted them into real life.

People, are we serious? You bring children into othe world to trust them to make good decisions? I don't agree to that. I believe parents should guide these children even when they insist they should take their own decisions to make good decisions. Parents will always be parents no matter how old we become. Laws in some countries like the US say when a child reaches 18 or say 21, he/she is free to go be on their own. That to me should not be the case. AT 18, that boy or girl is still trying to see what life has to offer; if we let them go at that age with no guidance because we think they are grown up, how many of them, end up doing the right thing and how many make the right choices? In my opinion, parents have to take care of their children till they are 24 +. In that case, they will know they have assisted them into real life.

son_of_disaster's picture
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I think the way to teach children respect is to respect them and treat them like a human being. If a child is raised with good morals and learns respect, then I believe they will come out alright. Notice I said morals and not God-fearing. It is the parents responsibility not the governments responsibility to take care of minors. If we want to do that, then you might as well raise Hitler and Stalin from the dead, because it doesn't work out so well.

You've simplified this so far down that it isn't even funny. This issue is far more complex than what you make it out to be. Children taught to fear God and respect people, kill people too. A strong moral foundation is good, but that doesn't mean that it'll keep kids from doing bad things. Children not taught good morals come out fine as well because they understand what is right and wrong and they didn't need some made up commandments to tell them. Please, are children are going where their parents and themselves let them, don't simplify this because you miss so many other crucial aspects.

jlepp_journey's picture

[quote=simonecamille]In the past, there was this general belief among parents both in developing countries and the developed countries that, respect for God, respect for self and respect for parents were the most important aspects of life. Many parents knew that at a certain age, thier daughters would be bethrothed to men who were respected in the society and had good morals as well as had a good reputation.

Are you advocating that the return the "good old days" would be better? I'm not sure that I see those days of repression and fear as being better. Respect for self can be taught by education, teaching self worth...fear is not a good teacher.

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