I often wonder why gay kids have to come out gay. Why don't straight kids have to come out?
It's unfortunate that we live in a world that forces roles upon us from a young age. Guys are supposed to like football, playing in the mud, and bugs. Girls like the color pink, dolls, and playing dress-up. Guys are supposed to like girls, and girls are supposed to like guys.
Why do we need the gender roles? Why do we have to make a definition of who we are? It would be so nice to live in a world where we weren't defined by our gender and what gender we desired.
Wanna witness this firsthand? Straight kids, take a family member or close friend, and sit them down as if you had something really important to tell them. Then say "Mom/dad/friend/whoever, i'm a heterosexual. Watch thier response. Listen to what they say. Then, come back here as tell us the presumptions that they had made. Any takers?
coming out straight
By shaunk - Posted on October 14th, 2006
Tagged: Society
• Personal freedom
When a man and a woman love each other, they make a baby. When a man and a man love each other, they don't. Therefore, it is biologically natural for people to be heterosexual. That is why you don't have to come out as heterosexual; it is automatically assumed that everyone is heterosexual.
Maybe gay people were born that way, and that is cool, but if you are going to complain about people not respecting homosexuality, don't make your argument so dumb.
We live in a world where approx 10% of the people are gay. That means there are more gay people then there are blonde people. In america, there are more gays then Asians, Middle Eastern people, and pacific islanders combine. There are almost as many gay people as black people (12% of usa). I think that it is fairly obvious that accomodations need to be made to accept and grant equality to everyone - including gays. Before that can be done, there needs to be alot of people who are intelligent enough to understand homosexuals.
-BTW, love doesn't make babies: sex does - and only some of the time. With some heterosexuals, it will never happen. That doesn't make it biologically unnatural for them to be together. I don't think what is natural should be based on procreation, but on love.
I understand why people come out. I've gone through the process before. Personally, I don't like people assuming I'm straight, just as you would probably not like people assuming your homosexual. I agree with you that it is a flawed system. People shouldn't make assumptions- straight or gay.
Your's was:
"People" (I took it as as implied 'other then myself') "have to come out as gay because we're" (I assumed that the we in we're =straight people) "not taught about differences in sexuality when we're young. We assume. So people who are different" (took it as an implied other then us straights) "have to say so."
was I wrong?
No, its fine. -I do thnk that gay/lesbian/bi kids are more tolerant. I think that we are forced to be more tolerant. After receiving the inequalities that society puts on us, (i.e. unlawful to marry, some couples can't adopt, etc) it forces you to be more tolerant of other types of people.
Sorry, I should have specified. I meant that gay kids are more tolerant starting around puberty. (when most gay kids first realize that they are gay or at least when they realize that they have some feelings toward the same sex.)
Homosexuality is a common occurrence in many, many different species. One example is the bonobo ape, which does not discriminate gender in its social hierarchy that revolves around sex.
In Southwestern Arizona, there is a species of lizard that has only females. To reproduce, they mate, like any other mammal. But they can have young without the need to mate; their offspring are clones of the mother.
You are correct. Homosexuality can actually be found in nature in nearly all species.
I know that if I came out as a heterosexual to my parents they would laugh. Of course, were I gay, and (at this point) I came out to my parents, they would also laugh then; unfortunately for my mom, she knows way too much about my sex life, but that's what she gets for wanting us to be friends.
Its crazy that you openly discus your sex life with your mom.
I see your point and it isn't a bad one but, everyone assume you're straight. That's just how our society works and yes, it is the wrong way to work it but heck, you can't do anything about it. Overall, I see that you're trying to be on the gay people side not that it's a bad thing. I was actually proven wrong when a freshman brought out his bible (that he carries around) and showed me exactly what it said about being gay. I found it completely wrong seeing how some peple can believe in such a thing even though God himself says it's wrong and to not do it... Saying that you're born gay and crap just kind of pisses me off a little. So sure, let the both the gay and straight open up but just know kids these days will just laugh upon those kind of suggestions. So therefore, it wasn't as useless to tell us but don't worry, your word gets out to everyone.
The idea that the Bible says that homosexuality is wrong, is not necessarily true. Some Christian churches are ok with homosexuality. The United Church of Christ, for example, says that the homosexuality is ok, and the parts in the Bible that say it is not were meant to distinguish between pagan and Judaism, Christianity, and Islam. Even the Roman Catholic Church believe that it is ok to be a homosexual. They just don't agree with having homosexual relationships. Official views by Reform Judaism, is that homosexuality is natural and like the United Church of Christ, believes that the parts in the Bible were meant to outlaw pagan rituals.
I wouldn't know a thing about the bible for I never even touched one. I've only studied it for schools and testes but that's world religions class. All I did was read what it said and honestly, I only thought there where two or three different kind of bibles. I, being an atheist myself, don't care whether the bible says it or not, gay shouldn't be jugded just because of what they are. That was all I was getting at, sorry for somewhat bringing up this religion crap.
I'm not offended or anything. I'm athiest myself. I just don't like when people try to justify thier descriminitory views on thier religion, because for one, the bible doesn't necessarily say that homosexuality is wrong. There is obviously alot of contraversy on the issue. Also, regardless of what it says, the basis of the christian religion is love, not hate. Hating someone or not granting them equal rights solely because they are gay or lesbian is completely contradictory to the basis of thier religious beliefs.