I am currently pregnant at the age of 17. I, like many others before me, wish I had waited. I considered abortion, even though it is completely against everything that I believe in.
I often wondered if I was ready, if I would be able to handle it, and if I would be a good mother. Many times I thought about how easy it would be to just go into the clinic, pay a couple fees and not have to worry anymore. But then it hit me. This fetus inside me isn't only a fetus, it's a child. My child. A child I had made the decision to make. He is here because I concieved him. I couldn't have an abortion, it wasn't his fault, he didn't choose to be here.
It was then that I considered adoption. He would still have a chance to live in this world and I would still have a chance to live my life. Everything would be okay. But it wouldn't. Looking back now I don't know how I could consider either. He is MY child, I created him. If I had decided to give him away I have no idea how much that would tear me apart. Especially after birth.
I made the decision to have sex, so at the same time I made the decision to be a parent.
Luckily, the father of my child is also not only my lover but my companion. He is as much part of this babie's life as I am. I, however, am more fortunate than others. Some girls get pregnant because they weren't smart, others because they were raped and/or abused.
In the case that a girl was raped or is too young I think adoption is the best answer. Save your child's life.
Abortion however, is only acceptable in very rare circumstances. One of which I read about today. This girl has been raped and abused by her father in the past, only this time she got pregnant. If she were to keep the child it would grow up in an unfit environment and would suffer greatly. If she kept the baby until birth it may be pron to birth defects if not miscarriage because of the father and the abuse. In this case, and others like it, I find it acceptable to have an abortion. Only because having the baby both hurts the mother and the child.
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I am currently pregnant at the age of 17. I, like many others before me, wish I had waited. I considered abortion, even though it is completely against everything that I believe in.
I got pregnant at 17, too. But I never considered abortion. And I don't think I should have waited (though it would have been nice to have had birth control).
I often wondered if I was ready, if I would be able to handle it, and if I would be a good mother. Many times I thought about how easy it would be to just go into the clinic, pay a couple fees and not have to worry anymore. But then it hit me. This fetus inside me isn't only a fetus, it's a child. My child. A child I had made the decision to make.
You didn't decide to get pregnant. You just said that you wish you had waited.
I don't think a fetus is a child. Even when I was pregnant, I never felt like my fetus was a child. He wasn't a child until he was born.
It was then that I considered adoption. He would still have a chance to live in this world and I would still have a chance to live my life. Everything would be okay. But it wouldn't. Looking back now I don't know how I could consider either. He is MY child, I created him. If I had decided to give him away I have no idea how much that would tear me apart. Especially after birth.
I feel the same way. I could never give a child up for adoption.
I made the decision to have sex, so at the same time I made the decision to be a parent.
You made the decision to be a parent when you decided not to have an abortion or give your baby up for adoption.
Luckily, the father of my child is also not only my lover but my companion. He is as much part of this babie's life as I am. I, however, am more fortunate than others. Some girls get pregnant because they weren't smart, others because they were raped and/or abused.
In the case that a girl was raped or is too young I think adoption is the best answer. Save your child's life.
If you could never choose adoption yourself, how could you possibly think it is the best option for rape victims??
Abortion however, is only acceptable in very rare circumstances. One of which I read about today. This girl has been raped and abused by her father in the past, only this time she got pregnant. If she were to keep the child it would grow up in an unfit environment and would suffer greatly.
But you just said that adoption is the "best" option for young rape victims! (Even though you yourself would never choose it.) Which is it?
The funny thing is that this problem has been happening for years. Most of my family had there kids at the age of 16-17. But never did they consider abortion. I feel that now-a-days people try to escape from responsibility or "take the easy route" but abortion just plays with peoples minds. You start to wonder "what if". I fortunately waited until I was 23 and love every minute. He is 4 months now. I hope everything works out for you.
I am not a rape victim therefore it is very easy for my not to chose adoption or abortion. I made the descision when I had sex. A rape victim however refused to have sex and was forced to have sex. She got pregnant, the baby wasn't her decision. A raped and abused person however (In my oppion) might have the need to get an abortion. If the girl was to go through her pregnancy while being abused she may have a miscarriage anyways and lose it, or there could be problems with the pregnancy, birth and even the child. Not to mention the girl I was talking about was raped by her father. Many times when incest is involved there are also deformaties. (Sorry if my spelling is off).
And as for the fetus not being a child you are wrong, it has a heartbeat and can think too, just like any child outside the womb.
And as for the fetus not being a child you are wrong, it has a heartbeat and can think too, just like any child outside the womb.
Nonviable fetuses can't think. They also can't survive outside of a woman's body. They're more like appendages than children, really.
I have been through pregnancy and I did not consider my pregnancy to be "a child." Pregnancy is pregnancy. A pregnancy becomes "a child" at birth.
And believe it or not, you agree with me, right here:
A rape victim however refused to have sex and was forced to have sex. She got pregnant, the baby wasn't her decision. A raped and abused person however (In my oppion) might have the need to get an abortion. If the girl was to go through her pregnancy while being abused she may have a miscarriage anyways and lose it, or there could be problems with the pregnancy, birth and even the child. Not to mention the girl I was talking about was raped by her father. Many times when incest is involved there are also deformaties. (Sorry if my spelling is off).
If you really believed that a fetus was the same thing as a child, you could never argue that abortion is OK if the woman was raped or molested. We don't let victims execute third parties for crimes they didn't commit, do we? We don't let parents kill deformed babies and toddlers, do we?
Obviously a fetus is not worthless, but it isn't the same thing as a born person, either. It is a fetus. It is a child-to-be, not a child. It has some value in society, but not more value than the woman carrying it.
I have been through an abortion. At the time I was 23 years old, and already had two children and was going through a divorce with their father. When I found out I was pregnant I was devestated and I was broke. I was also very selfish. I knew abortion was wrong going into it, but once it happened I melted inside. There are a lot of people who defend abortion, but abortion is an easy way out. There is nothing more painful that going through an abortion. Once you are there, you realize that you are letting someone rip a baby from the safest place in the world for it.
Do not ever let someone tell you that a fetus is not a baby, because it is. From the very beginning there is a heartbeat. Over time, there is so much that changes and with today's technology some babies can live from only 19 weeks of development. So that means at a time that babies can still be aborted, because places do partial birth... which is delivering the baby and then sticking scissors in the base of the neck, and sucking the brain out of the child... how humane does that sound in a society where you cannot leave a dog outside without water without possible jail time.
I hate hearing people talk about things they dont understand, like your first reader. Abortion is torture, for the mother and the baby. The mother has to live everyday of her life wondering what color eyes, what the first word... etc would be.
Bless you for the choice to make... and for those that said you were confused... of course you were confused... you were a 17 year old... of course all options played in your mind. That is life.
Jeanna Marie
I'm sorry you had to go through that I can't tell you I know what you're going through...because I don't, but I have heard many times from other people how devastating it is. How they couldn't sleep at night, and for that I am terrible sorry that you had to experience that. Right now I wonder what my son will look like and what kind of person he will be. I couldn't imagine what you feel.
Thank you for your support, I wish all the world to you and your two children.
A fetus is a child just because it goes through your vagina does not mean that it is suddenly different than before, it can still think, move, feel, and breathe. Just as any person does. I only agrued for the abortion in that one case because if a baby was abused while in the womb it would have deformities, yes you were right when you said that you wouldn't kill a child that was deformed, but you als wouldn't want that child to go through a life of teasing and misconception would you? Would you want your child to be teased and misunderstood daily?
And as for the CHILD not being as important as the mother I completely and entirely disagree with you. If I were to get hurt somehow, say a car accident or something, and it was either me or my baby, I would want my baby to live. I have lived and experienced this world and I would want that for my child.