Where, oh where, have the good guy gone? Where, oh where, could they be?
I admit that I have wondered this several times in my young life; I was a little too eager for love, you see. I felt like there were no more good guys left, especially after I had just spent $162 to go see a young man that ended up cheating on his girlfriend with me and kicking me to the curb. I rode the greyhound bus from Greenville, South Carolina to Hagerstown, Maryland. A fourteen hour trip, by myself, on a stinky, scarey bus. His girlfriend would never have done that for him, I know, because I was his girlfriend before her. She was second-best, the girl that reminded him of me the most.
I don't know why I thought that he would change for me. Ladies and gentlemen, on my trip back home, as I cried, here is what I learned:
1) There are good guys, they're just tired of going after the good girls that are obsessed with the want of a bad boy.
2) A guy that loves you will come to you first, not the other way around.
3) Love is patient, love is kind. A guy that makes you cry after after forcing you into sacrificing something for him is not patient nor kind.
4) True love at least will attempt to wait. We're all human.
5) A good guy will always respect you.
6) A good guy is not lazy, wants to please you, and wants to be able to make you happy. He does know that this is not always possible, but he will try.
7) A good guy expects that you will do the same for him as stated in number 6.
8) To find a good guy, sometimes you have to wait a while to sort through all the duds.
9) When you find that good guy, you'll see that the wait was worth it.
10) Ladies, you're as precious as you demand, if one guy does not feel you are "worth" what you demand, someone else will. There are plenty of fish in the sea. And if you lowered your standards for every guy that couldn't quite cut your standards... where would your standards be?
Oh, and last, but not least, love will come to you, don't go hunting for it.
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very true for the last one. sometimes it's hard to live out.
also.. you mentioned it briefly in your blog, but it kinda goes against your title (unless that was your point) from observation i think there are more good guys than bad.. (at least "bad" as we know it) but no one wants them. it's only after rejection/betrayal by the bad guy that we even begin to acknowledge the good.
That was my point =] That was number 1 observation, "there are good guys they just get tired of chasing good girls that are obsessed with the want of a bad boy".
"Be the change you wish to see in the world..." - Ghandi
I think this is one of the hardest lessons for us women to learn in life. I've gone through plenty of duds myself, and I'm just now getting to the point of understanding that love is worth the wait and not to settle for anything less.
"Say something that you know they might attack you for." - Linkin Park
well put. i think that these things are things that most women need to recognize. we have such a hard time not compromising who we are and what we're worth!!! we need to respect good things and pay no mind to the things that disrespect us. :o) thanks for the entry. keep writing!
"what you RESPECT is what you ATTRACT." - unknown (at least to me)
Thanks for the encouragement on my post, and trust me, I will keep writing!
"Be the change you wish to see in the world..." - Ghandi