Recently I lost my best friend and I'm not sure who was in the wrong. One day we are sitting in class and she leans over and tells me...i lost my virginity last night! I'm thinking...wow, what a foolish decision, and kinda blow it off. a couple of days later she tells me she did it again and it then became a regular thing. she was having oral sex as well. what's really weird is that i dated the guy she lost it with...but that's not the point...
so my parents started seeing changes in her because she was over all the time...and one day they ask me...is jessica* having sex? so i told them the truth because I was actually worried about her...i couldn't imagine her getting pregnant because she told me that if she over got pregnant she would abort it and i am totally against abortion. so my dad casually talks to jessica's* dad about it and then her dad asked her about it and she says that she hasn't been having sex. she tells me the next day that she told me that just to test me to see if i could keep a secret...so i'm thinking...did i lose my best friend for nothing? then i thought, well if she didn't do it then she wouldn't not be my friend anymore so maybe she did and that's why she hates me now? so what do you think? was i in the wrong or was she in the wrong to lie...or have sex...whatever she did? lemme know but lets not be too harsh! :) Thanks.
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I don't think you were wrong, you told the truth to your parents. I don't see anything wrong with that.
Thank you.
I would say she's telling the truth, or else she would have made up something more minor to test you. I think you should have first talked to her to make sure she was practicing safe sex, and take it from there. I don't see why your parents needed to be involved. Just curious, why would they ask if she was having sex? It seems odd to blame her unusual behavior on having sex.
you just have to know the girl...my parents had already thought she was having sex and then she started acting different and saying stuff...it's kinda her fault they asked me
Your friend is... screwed up. Be thankful that you lost her...?
Then again, Starchild has good points. I'm not really into that whole psychology thing, but you should consider her comment.
**Save English as a first language, yo.
How were you wrong? It was wrong of her to lie about it, "test" you, wahetever. A friend wouldn't worry you like that. I personally wouldn't consider a person like that to be my friend. But that's me. You choose what's best for you.
I fear no man(Nazgul)...i'm no man(Eowyn) -LoTR
that's what i thought but it hurts to lose her...
It sucks to be on the innocent end of the lie...I, too, would like to know why your parents made the leap to sex from behavior? do they ease drop? ANyway..if your friend is moving that way let her be there for her thogh in case she realizes she went down the wrong path and needs a friends help otherwise just let bye gones be bye gones
no my parents don't ease drop but how can i be there for her if we aren't even talking to eachother?
be there for when she feels like talking or whatever dont just give up on her she blames you for something she did and you two will end up just friends in the worst case scenario and in the best case be best friends for life and apart of each others weddings...either way dont let her drag you down her path just wait for her to come back to yours
thank you! :)