It is a hard topic to write about because everyone knows someone who has had it happen to them or they are a victim of it. Kids have ran away from home because they felt afraid of their family and the home they lived in. Some tried so hard to make it better by being a better child and trying to double the chores they do or clean the house but it only seemed to make it worse. Sometimes the pain is so strong that a child will scarface their life to find something better. Don't be fooled by the sigh on the door that says, " Home Sweet Home." Once the door is closed, it becomes dark and the pain becomes to hard to handle. There are parents who will watch it happening and deep inside they know it is wrong yet they think they are doing the right thing by doing nothing. Their heart is in the right place, they think that maybe it will stop and everything will go back to normal, maybe they can save the family and the pain will stop. They are just as scared as the child.
It should be in our nature to protect our child. If pain is inflected on a child than it should be the parents who are the first ones to make it stop no matter what measure of pain they have to take so, why does child abuse occur.
There is a little girl who is sitting on the porch as warm tears run down her cheeks and her arm is black and blue. Her father beats her everyday as though it was a sport no matter if she brings home good grades, is the best in sports, cooks and cleans, and does every chore possible, he still beats her. Her mother knows what is happening but she has a feeling that someday it will stop and her daughter will forget the pain that was brought on her.
What the mother does not understand is that the daughter does not know why her mother does not protect her and do something about it. Parents are suppose to be our support system, they are the ones that love us no matter what we do, they are always there when we are scared or afraid and they know how to make us better yet why do they allow horrible things to happen to their child?
Some children believe that if their parents are not stopping the pain or doing anything about it than they must be right. Some will see it as their parents doing the right thing and that perhaps they are bad kids and do not know how to do something right.
Why force a child to come up with the conculsion that they are being beaten because they are such bad kids, it is wrong. Abuse should not occur no matter if it is a child or an adult, it should be stopped.
You are our parents, take responsibility of what is happening to your child. Do not dream of the pain stopping or think about whether it will ruin the family or not, think about the pain and how it will never leave your child.
We look at you as our heroes, we want you to love us and make us feel loved, we want you to understand us and make us feel like we are the world to you but you betray that. Think of how bad it hurts to make a child feel alone in the world as such a young age because you can not find enough strength to get help. Think about how they feel died inside because their parents have betray them and they abuse them. It is a bond that is broken and usually the parents do not understand how bad the situation really is on the child. No, the child will never forget the pain you have inflected on them. No, they will never understand why you did not pick up the phone and call the police. No, they will never understand why you want them to love you so bad when you allowed such a horrible thing to happen.
sometimes it turns the child into a liar who is afraid of the world. The child goes and tells a teacher or a friend that they are abused yet nobody will listen to her becuase her father is perfect man who is part of the city board, he is the coach for boys basketball and he donates money to homeless. He can not be a monster, not the man everyone knows and loves, not the family man. The child is not only alone at home now but also may feel that world against them. Where does the child turn to next?
Abuse is not just something that happens and can be forgotten. It is not something that should be taken lightly. It is not something that should make a child feel broken and alone. There is no excuse for abuse, their is no punishment that will end the pain for the child. It is not something that is only on the skin, it is more than skin deep, it effects that child and how they look at the world. The child is not to blame! Their memories will turn dark and they will become confused yet they will still love you. Children see you as a mom or dad not as a monster so no matter how much you hit them or abuse them, they will still love you and sometimes forgive you without you having to ask. No matter how much pain or bad memories they have or will have, they see you as a parent that they love and will awalys love. It is hard not to love someone who brought you into the world. They call you mom and dad with pride yet you are a monster who takes advantage of the bond between the child and a parent. They should hate you for all the things you have done to them yet you are their parents.
Some will only remember their parent and remember all the happy times. Remembering all the happy times will make it more difficult to understand the anger and pain of what happened. We do not have the power to make people change their ways no matter how painful it is.
Why do you find it okay to abuse, to make someone feel less important, to make a child feel like they are living in hell. To take the power of being a parent and abuse it?
