When I was about 12 years old I made a promise. And I must say it is the hardest one I've ever had to keep. I promised God and myself that I would save myself until marriage.
Please, don't think of me as that chunky little prude girl that sat in the back of your health class gasping and blushing whenever she heard the word “sex.” That's not me at all. I don't have any problem with sex, and I'm very excited for it to be my turn. But right now it's not.
My boy friend, Jake, and I have been together for about 3 years now. And obviously we're well past the giggling and holding hands stage. There's A LOT of pressure!
Constantly I have to remind myself of the benefits of abstinence. By choosing NOT to have sex I can't get pregnant, there's no risk of catching diseases through sex, and most of all I'm going to have an AMAZING wedding night.
Another thing, and I'm sure many people won't agree with me on this, but I feel that this way we can concentrate on why we're really together. Within my school I have noticed that relationships begin to fall apart once sex comes into the mix. I don't want to have to go through more than one relationship, I'm determined that my first will be my last, and only.
People have told me that I was foolish, that I should experience other things. But why would I do that? Why would I want to constantly compare every kiss? Every hug? And most of all every time we lay together? Experience doesn't always mean something is better.
I ask that everyone thinks about this a little, not that you choose the same lifestyle, but maybe just think about it!
Why there's a DIFFERENT type of ring on my left hand
By The Middle Repu... - Posted on May 24th, 2008
Tagged: abstinance
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Finally someone who thinks like i do! I just think that it would have more meaning and respect when done married (does that make sense? lol). Anyways, what's the point of comparing? If that's what its about, theres nothing there. Its not supposed to be a comparison, its love.
I applaud you on making that promise! I totally agree that there are multiple reasons for abstaining from sex until marriage. A lot of people get angry when advised to be abstinent becasue they aren't Christians, or whatever. ANd I'm sitting there thinking...but it's safer, there's no chance of getting pregnant or getting STDs, etcetera, etcetera...So many reasons other than religion!
Besides, you know a relationship stands a good chance at lasting if you manage to refrain from having sex because you want to wait until marriage. It does indeed keep the focus of the relationship on the relationship.
And that's comin' at ya' from yer local redneck hippie.
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The Story of Myself
thanks for the comments guys! I've been thinking about it A TON today, mostly because yesterday we went a little further than we should have and I needed to remind MYSELF why I'm doing this... It really is hard, but I know it's going to work out, God put Jake and I together and I want to keep that bond between the 3 of us pure.
If your boyfriend truly respects your decision, he shouldn't be pressuring you. It's your decision as well as his, and you should be able to choose when you want to do it without any pressure from your significant other. Just don't be so focused on only having one relationship that you compromise your wants in order to do so.
As for the spectacular wedding night, I'm not trying to deter you or anything but you should know that the first time you have sex it isn't that great. It's even painful for some.
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sorry... I think you misunderstood what I meant by pressure... I didn't mean he asks me to do it or that he tries to get me to... I simply meant that it is very hard for both of us.
He would never ask me to do anything. In fact, I'm usually the weak one who tries to give in, HE has to tell ME no! How many boys do that?
Jake and I were joking around the other day and I told him "Jake, you know you're perfect! If you were any other guy and you saw how weak I was you'd say 'Hey! Let's go!'" but not him!
He is perfect! Make sure you hang onto him. ^-^
If only all guys could be that way, you know? You've been so blessed!
And that's comin' at ya' from yer local redneck hippie.
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The Story of Myself
tehe... thank you! GAHHH!!! This blog always puts me in a giddy mood!
Waiting till marriage is a really nice idea...if you can get married. Those of us who can't, well, what's the line of demarcation for us?
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That did come to my mind infact. In your case, I have no arguement because unfortunately you are not given the same rights as everyone else.
I was once sitting at a table in College (first semester, first year) and i the issue of sex came up, then marriage. A girl sitting with us was like "i can't get married". The conversation changed to politics and then I wondered and asked "why not?"; she replied, because I'm a lesbian.
I for the first time, felt horrible. No matter how religious I may be, as long as one is not hurting another, I don't see why gays/lesbians can't get married. It has nothing to do with me.
I don't know what to say about marriage in your case. Well I could say, save it for the person you are sure you are going to spend the rest of your life with.
Good Luck.
But you don't have to apologize! You didn't do anything...well, unless you've voted for any anti-marriage referendum. Then, you may apologize, because that's just mean! ;)
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/ediblewoman
allthough I don't believe that being gay is right.... I think it's silly that they can't get married. Honestly, there are so many Christians that look at what everyone else does wrong... and they forget what the Bible says... that EVERY sin is just as bad as the others. What's the difference between being gay and lieing? THERE ISN'T ONE!
Lying is dishonest and hurtful to other people. Being gay is not hurtful to anyone.
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/ediblewoman
Alrighty then...and no i don't vote for any anti gay referendums...lol. Guess im nice : )
I wish more conservatives would see it this way. I have a big problem with laws that protect people from themselves and cut off others' rights.
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