Adults? If we're being nice, please don't abuse it.

I was supposed to hang out with my boyfriend this Saturday. We were going to the carnival one town over, and walk in the parade. Yesterday, he called me and told me he wouldn’t be able to participate in this – after he and I had planned this for a month, he was fine with it – because his neighbor’s having surgery on Friday. He does yard work for this neighbor, and he’s apparently supposed to head over to his house every day to make sure nothing is needed of him. And said boyfriend apparently can’t take off two or three hours for a parade.

Oh, apparently, my boyfriend and our friend got cussed out after I left his house yesterday, because his brother didn’t do what he was supposed to (lucky I wasn’t there, otherwise I would have ripped the guy a new one for the reasons below).

Yeah, I’m PMSing, but I almost lost it. My boyfriend and his brother are doing the guy a favor, really – neither one of them is obligated by blood or contract/paycheck to do the guy’s lawn, and they’re doing it for a reduced rate. He really had no right to yell at my boyfriend for what his brother did or didn’t do, anyway. Have a problem with someone, take it up with that person, especially if the person with the issue is an adult. It looks catty or cowardly if the person with the problem takes it up on a family member – I’ve had it done to me before in regards to my parents, by two “adults”, and I was eight.

I hate to say it, but I’m really sick of non-related adults who seem to think that because we’re doing something for them, either because we want to or are paid to, that gives them the right to dictate our schedules for us. I’m probably the biggest adult pushover I know – if I’m asked to do something by an adult, I do it… But even I draw the line when a one-time thing becomes a drop-everything obligation (unless my mom/dad tells me I have to; my boyfriend doesn’t listen to his parents, so if either one of them told him to, he wouldn’t do it). I’m legally too young to enter into a contract, and if I wanted a normal job, I'd go out and get one - my boyfriend's the same way... Except for the fact that he's unwilling to ask if he can skip one day of working.

Especially if I’ve had plans for the past month, and the plans aren’t an all-day thing… And even if it was, the plans were still made; the yard work can’t wait one little day? It’s also constantly rainy now, because of the season and where we live…

I don’t know. I get that he wants to make money, but he did make me a promise. Not only that, he promised my mom. It’s not like we’re just going to ride rides, we’re actually going to work. I don’t know why I feel like I have to answer to this man, but I do.

Right now, I’m not really happy with his neighbor or him. I think that my boyfriend is a jerk because he said he would help, and I think his neighbor is a jerk because he could have at least had a little consideration for previous plans that he supposedly (knowing my boyfriend, he probably didn’t) knew about.

Yeah, I’m mad.

Oh, and if this is my boyfriend's way of telling me no, I'm gonna be even madder.

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